I'm so upset, husband and I split the bills, with what I started making I would save 1 or 200 a month after I paid what I was supposed to. and now between doctors appointments and watching my nephew I don't get to save anything. when we moved in together I had over 1000 in my bank account now I have just under 200. i hate feeling broke. i don't ever wanna ask him for money or anything so I haven't been getting stuff for myself i need, like pants I can actually fit into and wear to work. and ive been working some 11 hours days to make up for the hours I miss from watching my nephew and doctors appointments. it's really hard but I'm too proud to ask for money. the whole reason I got my nails done early for pictures (I told him that's what I wanted for my birthday in a few weeks) was because i thought he was gonna pay for it because it was like an early birthday present. i guess he either didn't listen or thought because it was early it didnt count so he never came in the salon and I had to pay it myself. ugh. and then my phone bill so now I'm basically broke. 😥 sorry rant over
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every couple does bills differently. me n hubby have decided that its OUR money. regardless who works for it. I make a 1/3 of what he makes and i pay what i can afford to pay. which is usually the extras (satellite, internet, my phone bill, my loan) he takes care of the rent (elec included), his loans, Cred cards. but if I need something or want something all I have to do is make it known. If I cant afford something I tell him. He doesn't mind. He knows I dont make as much and understands I pay what I can with my check literally. whatever I can afford bill wise I pay. our accounts are Separate but I'm on his but hes not on my account or ill have to pay extra every month for another person to be on it. I just personally don't see the point in separate finances. If it benefits your family then its worth it. it doesnt matter "I paid this, this, and this" at the end of the day the bills are paid. my bro in law and his wife dont mix their money. she pays alot to almost all of their bills and is broke. then goes 2 weeks with no lunch money etc because she paid bills. he will go blow his money on whatever he wants then tell her she should've saved money. he made her feel like crap one day asking for $5 for lunch before leaving for work and to the point my hubby gave it to her. then told me "if I ever do that knock the hell out of me. you work i work its not my money or yours it is ours. we are one" every now and then he makes comments like "how much was your lunch today." then says "oh just wanted to make sure you ate." but to each their own way. just my opinion out there
@mommy1987, you deserve it! carrying a babe is hard work lol I'm nervous about going part time because my checks are going to be absolute shit.
Hey sometimes we have to swallow our pride and accept help which doesn't make us a bad person :)
@sherrynygirl, yes I couldn't not have my own, I hate being dependent, be he is definitely the good one with saving and finances! I'm not a big spender, he is just way better at making sure everythjng is paid my memory sucks lol. @canaryv he has said he will switch with me and he pay rent and give me a much smaller bill, which I think I will take him up on. i wanna have money of my own to spend on my baby aaand the holidays coming up
Communication is key hun. My hubby and I both split bills but I made it clear that if I can't afford something then I need him to step up and pay it. I also made it clear that once I became his wife I would never "borrow" money again. Simply put, he makes way more than I do and I just can't afford everything all the time and since I talked to him it's gotten a lot easier. Bills are still high but I don't stress as much anymore.
i think every woman should def have her own bank acct&keep; it to yourself.. we are always better at saving and if an emergency arises you have a back up plan
also I wouldn't be broke if I hadn't spent so much on his birthday and the reception when we got married, both in July. but I wanted him to have a good birthday. and now after we've had to make quite a few big expenses after moving in together and getting everything for the nursery we are down a couple thousand so he isnt too excited about that so I don't think I'm really gonna get anything for my birthday (my 21st and I'll be 37 weeks pregnant) I feel like I'm being petty but I just want one last birthday about me ya know? after you have kids it's never really about you anymore. and I spent about 400 on him for his birthday for that reason. i just know it's not gonna be returned and not because he doesn't care he just doesn't think about it. so I'm sad.
@kiml7613, that's how my husband is, he by no means is stingy with his money when it comes to me, I'm just too proud, my parents raised me not to ask for anything, even from them so I still hate doing it. i m getting better about it slowly but surely I think lol the way we initially split our bills was we were both paying the same percentage of our checks for the most part, he makes the most and puts out the most but when my pay decreased i kept the same bills but we are switching one or two