How do you decide on custody of your kids when you know you need to get divorced and you want full custody yet you…

How do you decide on custody of your kids when you know you need to get divorced and you want full custody yet you talked about always doing joint custody.

how can you decide what to do when you know if you ask for anything more then joint custody it will be a fight and might cause animosity anger and even him possibly saying it's a unforgivable action I did to him.

We all remember the high school drama...

Let's just say if I got full custody it would turn into a high school seen.

He is worse than that!!!

I don't know how to help him understand how close he is to losing me even getting him to listen to communicate.... Is like pulling teeth!

My husband is not a bad dad he's not a bad person he does have a lot of things issues going in his life that he has decided to put first other then trying and fighting and working on saving our marriage.

I have an eight-year-old daughter who has always been a daddy's girl! We just recently had a surprise and we have been blessed with a son he is seven weeks old.. Even when I was pregnant my husband was mostly disconnected he didn't shown a connection with his son when I was pregnant and when he was born he has had his moments then again I only speak and express what I observe and I feel I don't have proof or facts to back up these expressions I have!

My husband doesn't help financially with the kids he is staying with his mom he doesn't have the desire to even be saving money and paying bills he has a

Back injury so he gets Social Security disability which is only $700 a month but that is it and he can't keep a job down.

Once again I don't know 100% true but I believe he might be into gambling and has turned to things to numb out with. I do know that he drinks (drinking is not bad but we as adults need to drink responsibly) but he also is not being smart with his pain medication because he always runs out and he will also drinking alcohol with his medication.

What's really bad is I feel ashamed to even say this but he confessed when I confronted him and asked him why our daughter's ADHD pills we're slowly going away we are running out before the end of the month he did say that he was taking a few.

I told him this is something that is wrong and cannot be done I then told him that if he feels like he needs to get on some medication for his own mental health I would help him get into The right doctor... He agreed but missed his first appointment and asked me to reschedule it so we will see if he goes on Tuesday..

He has blocked me on Facebook will not post anything about me or include me even when we were together this was happening.

I am beginning to believe he is making a double life. Including not being honest because he's so unhappy with himself he might be creating stories that aren't true to have others think and believe he is a good Man hard-working man responsible he is hungry for others to be proud of him!! It hurts me to know that on Facebook their could be anything going on my therapist said anyone would question suspicion of hiding something... If anybody else was in my shoes she said they would feel the same way because blocking you from Facebook not allowing you to look at his page and always locking his phone so I can't see his Facebook she said it's simply opening suspicions. I Can't put my mind in there because when I do it's really hard to pull myself out of that place but I know I'm not in denial I know that it does open suspicion and it's very real!!

Lying or keeping secrets is more damaging I rather hear the truth and have a bruised heart and you lied to...

We have been married for nine years and we have had about seven separations our daughter is so hurt she is now putting her foot down she won't go spend the night with her dad. It breaks my heart she says she does not want to go back-and-forth and she loves school she said she cannot miss school.

I appreciate you reading my long novel I know that there are so many strong wonderful women out there that might have some comforting words, ideas someone that might even relate to a part of my story I don't want to break his heart and pull his kids away yet I feel he has broken our hearts and it's hurting and damaging my daughter and it will my son if I don't do something about it now I don't know what to do please please anybody could you talk to me?

I feel so lost and alone and confused and broken there are so many other things that I don't know about even and he'll say the most hurtful things to me he won't communicate he avoids talking he avoids me until he want something from me as I am speaking and writing this he is texting me and asking me for dirty pictures I don't send pictures I don't take or allow intimate pictures because being intimate is a very deep personal sensitive thing for me which is between two people when their face-to-face...

Sorry ladies I just need to vent I didn't have any intentions on this being so long I am going to end it now because I could keep going and going but I really would like to ask one more time to all these wonderful women if you read this and don't have a word you might be able to say to help me find a way to handle this possible custody thing may I ask you to please pray and ask God to help a friend me know what is the right thing to do thank you so much message me anytime if anyone of you need someone to talk to or even a friend.

Ps I am no perfect person it takes two people to make a relationship and two people could break it I struggle with mental health and I struggle with physical health issues and my emotions have weighed my marriage my husband has shown a lot of patience with me and getting into the right treatment and therapy for some reason now that I am getting better I am receiving the right kind of treatment and getting the right kind of help. It has opened up his eyes on truly recognizing he has stuff to work on also and after years of saying if only I got better are marriage would be just fine it now has surfaced saying that he needs to do his part in order for it to work....

It's 4 AM I am up nursing I am so tired I dose off but then I'll wake myself back up!!!!

Hugs to all

Thanks😊