@bianca_rose, this is kind of both. Like his parents haven't made much of effort in this whole pregnancy, so I am still a little pissed off at them about that. My mom bought EVERYTHING for my daughter. So I don't much mind my mom, because she's my momma and I am an only child not saying that I want her to suffocate me either, it's just I feel like his parents haven't earned a place to just come and insert themselves. I don't mind them being at the hospital but I don't want them constantly in my face or passing my daughter around or even crowding up my house after I go home.

Girl my mom and my mil want to come in and be there when my babies born. I told em all no and they cant seem to understand why they can't cause Im being "selfish". But really I just want more bonding time with me my husband and baby. Don't feel bad about your decision. I don't lol

I didn't mind but I can understand your feelings. Do you feel this way about your parents/family too or just his?

@ainsleighsmumma, I've talked to him a little bit today and he said we can tell everyone to go away if that's what I want but I'm too soft at heart to do that so maybe I'll leave it to him to get everyone away. He's enough asshole for the both of us lol

@mothertobe16, the hospital has to listen to the mothers rules on who she wants in the room. Just tell the hospital staff. Also talk to your husband and ask why he did that when he knew how you felt.

@babyelkins2016, they already have a 3 person limit for the hospital rooms but I doubt that the nurses will enforce it. @savanahr777 I talked to my husband beforehand and he said he understood that I didn't want one coming to see us for a week or so but that's not how it's going. He won't tell his parents not to come and I feel like an asshole because my mom will be there so I can't tell his parents not to come. But what I don't want is them there the hospital and then trying to come over crowd our house , it's killing me thinking about a bunch of people in our personal space. It's bad enough my mom lives with us... @bianca_rose I'm talking about at any of it. I don't wanna people in the room before, during, or after. I don't wanna just pass my baby around like a rag doll. Ugh.

I'd just talk On the down low to the nurses and tell them if they can tell ur guests only so many people allowed in the room, or you can say only so many people allowed in the room. even if u gotta tell a white lie lol

Are you talking about during labor or afterwards?

When I got induced, my boyfriends grandma who is a spawn of satan and his aunt who doesn't stop talking ever insisted that they were coming. They even told him they didn't care that I didn't want a bunch of people there. I told him straight up, if they show up the nurse will be well aware that they aren't welcome in the room until after the baby was here. It wasn't just them either, my grandparents, step mom, and friends didn't come until the day after he was born and we're very understanding about it. Some people just want to be part of those things and don't understand how hard and stressful it's gunna be for you in pain dealing with a room full of people.

For sure talk to your hubby about it before hand at least so you can get out of him his expectations on the situation.

Maybe you can tell the nurses you only want so many people visiting at once and they can be the ones to tell them? @mothertobe16

@babyelkins2016, definitely not the only one. I just don't wanna hurt anyone but if I bottle it up I'll explode. I don't how to tell my husband. I mean I guess I can just let it happen...

I feel the exact same way. My mom would be so pissed if I told her she couldn't come. And so would his. There both very hard headed and always have to have their way. It really sucks /: @mothertobe16 glad I'm not the only one going through this

@savanahr777, @babyelkins2016 I can try a compromise it's just I don't wanna hurt his moms feelings and I don't want him to hurt his feelings if he wants his parents there because my mom would definitely be super pissed if I wouldn't let her come. This already feels overwhelming.

Maybe a compromise? Have only you and you SO the first few hours after birth then allow everyone for a few hours only express that your not trying to be rude but you need sometime to rest and "bond" like breastfeeding (if that's the way you are going) is not easy for a first time mom just be upfront with everyone I'm sure they will understand

I'm in the same boat! This is my first and my boyfriends and my mom, grandma, grandpa, sister, and his mom, sister, and step sister who's driving in from out of town will all be in the waiting room after my csection 😭 I told my doctor that we don't want anyone in the recovery room they can wait until we get moved to our actual room. Thank goodness were in recovery for 2 hours