I am a recovering cheater..before I met my fiance I was 17 and a player ass chick if I say so. I didn't fall for these guys cause I lose interest fast anyway. that made it easier to drop they ass like a bad habbit. now for the last 10 months my sex life has been non existing, due to my fiancé low low low sex drive. (like he is not bothered at all that he hasn't had sex in 10 months). I'm at the point where I'm feeling a relapse coming on. I'm only 21 and my fi is 50. I'm not going to be able to dick less another damn month. I love him and want this to work, but I'm suffering and beginning to contemplate things.
@lovelyms.tay, yep, just set the mood for him. I know how it feels because my boyfriend went through that too and he's only 21 girl. 😂 The problem was he was just bored basically. We've together for almost 7 years now & just need to spice things up sometimes. If you know how to use a pole, get one or take pole dancing classes as a form of exercise & then bring it home on a special occasion, you'll get some that day too! Lol
@dang_dridri now that's a good idea.. switch stuff up...you just gave me great idea. we're gonna have date night and do some lingerie shopping. then go to a nice room afterwards maybe a change in scenery could help.
Maybe try some new ways to get him in the mood & try new things in the bed. Go to the sex shop together or something & get some toys, lingerie, etc & it might excite him enough to be ready by the time y'all get home. 😊
@eskawho I'm just talking....im likely not gone cheat. I just get angry when I'm up horny and he asleep like the shit cool.
maybe something is going on.. have him make a Dr's appointment to get checked out...it still might be nothing but just needing a medication to help. if talking isn't working and he won't get help...and you say you can't live without it much longer...it might be time to end things as difficult as it might be...cheating only makes things worse. I've gone almost 2 years without when my husband was deployed.. it sucked but that's just the way it is because we wanted to spend our lives together and we were very sexual active as we were newly married.
@alainalovesmommy I'm only talking to yall about it because I'm tired of talking to him about it. it's been going on for 10 months ...I brought it up the 1st time around 2 months into no sex.
@ainsleighsmumma well you can marry these nuts ...cuz what works for you doesn't work for others. maybe yo sex drive low ...but mines not. a vibrator is not a dick . and it does nothing for me. Yo man was deployed...mines was and is laying in my bed every night knocked tf out..while I'm crying and feeling unwanted. cause he can't or just won't touch me. so excuse me if Idgaf what you find shitty. wtf do you know?
@lovelyms.tay, yeah I've gone longer than 10 months without sex while my husband was deployed. And I'll still tell you cheating is a shitty thing to do. Sorry if you don't like the truth but that's it. But go ahead be a shitty fiancé, hell if you wanna Marry someone it's for better or worse.
@ainsleighsmumma also seeing that you're pregnant ...you obviously getting did in a timely fashion so...you don't know the struggle dear.
@bugmama I didn't mean girl bye in the snappy way..I meant girl bye like basically dismissing the suggestion.
@ainsleighsmumma until you going 10 months straight with no dick. ..very limited oral. than you tell me wtf shitty is. I have a vibrator and I'm vibrated out. I wanna vibrate on some REAL dick. It's not the same. I didn't ask for no advice, I was venting.
Get yourself a dildo and learn how to masturbate, or order him some viagra. Cheating because your man has a low labido is a shitty thing to do.
I was just trying to help you say you are ttc and haven't had sex in 10 months and that you are feeling a relapse in cheating. Cheating is going to hurt him more then you moving on. I would just talk to him explain that you have your sexual needs and desires see if he has a way for your needs to be satisfied so you don't feel the want to cheat. I wasn't trying to be offensive at all. You are young though .
@bugmama girl bye lmao, im not leaving my man...I love him and if he can't fuck no more oh well....he just gone need a partner apparnetly. only way we breaking up is if he leave me.
yeah I understand , no sex is a difficult thing