A stepmom rant, I'm not sure if people actually realize or take time to think about getting into a relationship with someone who has a child already. You are temporary that child is forever. Then you and your SO get pregnant and now you're bringing your "own" child into this world and you want to not include your stepchild in everything possible? You're just going to create issues with your SO and your stepchild. What if your SO told you that they didn't want your child there for appointments or other things involving your unborn child. I've been a stepmom for over two years and I try to plan my appointments around the weeks we have my SS. We include him in everything possible.
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My SO works third shift as well so I'm always up with our 6 year old. He's a big part of my life. He understand that some days are rougher than others for me and will help out where he can. @lost041
My SO works 3rd shift and so that leaves me to take care of all 6 kids by myself all day while he sleeps. I don't care cause I love them all and while only 3 of them really need to have an eye kept on them 24/7 cause they r 10, 9, and 4 and then we have 3 teenage girls. Yes the teens r a great help with the younger 3 but they aren't the parents we r so I try to do as much as I possibly can on my own. I would never say his kids can't come c us cause I'm close to my due date I knew the responsibility from the get go and I've accepted it. I can't say when anything will happen but I'll make sure someone is here to take care of our children if I go into early labor no matter what
Exactly. We talk about my SS little brother as much as possible and answer every question he is. He's always telling us how much he's going to help and how he's going to teach him all these things. He is nervous because he's used to being the only child when he's with us and when he's with his mom. If I go into labor when he's with us he'll come to the hospital and my husbands grandma will come get him until our son is here. I would never tell my husband that his son can't come out week because I might go into labor... @lost041 @shananaginsx
I have 2 step daughters who r my absolute world I knew when I got with their dad that they were part of his life just he knew my 4 children were part of mine. We didn't tell any of the kids about our baby till I was almost 13 weeks but since then I've had my daughter at an appt where she got to c her baby brother and next week I go for another appt where my step daughter will b there and get to c her baby brother. we have a very huge blended family but I wouldn't have it any other way and even though this baby was a huge surprise for us everyone is ready to meet him
Exactly. I have two step sons and we try our hardest to include them and make sure they feel the same. It is hard, but I made sure to always make them feel loved from me and that I still care about them as I do my own son
Not necessarily. In my case my mom had her and my step dad's 2nd when I was 17 it was a girl so my step dad found a way to push me out of the family. My mom unfortunately let him. She had and has no strength when it comes to standing up for her children. I actually didn't talk to my mom on and off for years at a time. My step dad has since apologized but I still hurt from felling unloved and like a red headed step child when I was younger.