Opinions ladies? I love my boyfriend.. But I am absolutely miserable being with him again. He doesn't help out with anything unless I ask more than once and then he bitches.. He throws things in my face that he "does so much" for me, when he really, really doesn't. My stress is at an all time high since I got back with him and I don't think I can do this anymore.. He calls me selfish and lazy and that I'm taking advantage over him when literally all he does for me is do the cat litter, take out the trash, and help carry laundry. Not even every day, and he bitches about it for hours and is in a terrible mood when he does it. He won't give me massages or make me food.. But he expects those things from me. I'm 35 weeks and working 40 hours a week, waking up at 5 a.m every day.. Just to come home to his nasty attitude. If this is what I'm experiencing now, how can I expect it to get any better once she's here? :( I don't want her to have split parents.. But I'm starting to think it's the best option.
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@allyk.xmommy, I messaged him a little bit ago telling him we need to talk.. and without him trying to turn everything around on me. A real talk with him listening to what I have to say. :/ I doubt itll turn out like that but I'm trying.. Honestly I want to just do it over message because its easier to get out and he won't be able to interrupt me.. But who knows if he'll actually read it all.
He's in some serious denial and thinks that he does so much for me.. It would be a miracle if he cooked or cleaned or rubbed my feet wiithout me begging for it. @gcpaschal
@fallon_fairytale, oh hunny. I'm so sorry. you shouldn't be going through all this stress. I think it's time to talk to him about breaking up. it's not fair to u sweety
I'm not sure I would be holding on to that headache. Sounds like he's a kid more than the man you need. If he's not working he should be the one grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning. Along with massages.
Oh wow that's not fair to u or that baby....that's a lot to deal with I was told that guys don't feel like a man when they can't provide or something to improve themselves and when u bring it up it makes them feel even less of a man and won't change until they can do all those things together at once
@allyk.xmommy, the thing is, he doesn't even work. He works on call for uhaul type stuff. Sometimes goes days without working at all, and it only be 4 hours. He gets paid the days he works and then blows the money. Since I got back with him the only thing he has contributed, is once buying toilet paper, and buying an outfit for Alice.. I've tried talking to him before about all this but everytime I try and have a real conversation with him, he doesn't listen and he turns everything around on me somehow. He refuses to hear anything unpleasant about himself or something I don't like. Very immature and it isn't getting any better :/ @novaskyy
If not spilling may be for the best don't need u stressing the baby they feel that too I always encourage two parent homes since there aren't so many these days but people can only take so much
I'm sorry you're going thru this most guys are nervous about being a father I went thru this with my sons father he changed up once he was born but by 6 months old he was back to his same ways finally after being a year old he has changed alit and does EVERYTHING for my son I don't do anything but play with him at age / while he bathes clothes and hair he will come around
well, I know this 1 thing about men. they think the only thing in life they have to do is work. everything else is expected from the women. nomatter what their situation. then, they will do little things, like a few dishes, or litter box, stuff like that and will expect you to praise them for FINALLY doing something. just explain to him how frusturated you are, and that the option to leave is possible. make it a real threat. and he lets u go, he will regret it. if he tries to convince u to stay, demand a change in the behavior. but if he does let u go, and begs for u to come back later then put up a fight about coming back. or he will do it all over again
@fallon_fairytale, good luck hunny