How long did mommies wait to have sex? It's been 6 weeks, I had my 6 week check up, everything looks fine, and my sex…

How long did mommies wait to have sex? It's been 6 weeks, I had my 6 week check up, everything looks fine, and my sex drive has been back since practically the first week but when hubby and I attempted to have some "alone" time the other night it hurt so bad I begged him to stop and so nothing happened... Did the first time after baby hurt that bad? And does it get better over time or am I just going to have to suck it up and get the first time over with?