@mommytobe0703 I'm genderqueer and androsexual and very well-educated to be a true ally to nearly every gender and sexuality in the community... my partner on the other hand is a straight, cis white man who respects the community from a distance, but really doesn't know a ton about it and doesn't care, quite frankly. We both want a boy and are pretty sure that's what we're having. With my partner's attitude, he seems to be planning to just let me do whatever I want with our kid as long as I don't do anything stupid, and he'll just mind his own business. I've gone over a lot of things with him. "What would you do if I painted Gally's nails hot pink? What if he wants to wear a dress, would you let him?" He never acts like he's against it, he just doesn't really care. And don't get me wrong, he definitely cares about me and the baby. He loves us and is active in our lives and is about the most romantic man I've ever met. But yeah, I plan to raise a boy gender-neutrally while his father is a straight, cis, masculine mechanic who will play no part in raising him gender-neutrally. I think having a boy would be a lot more fun, since boys in dresses are looked down upon by society a lot more than girls in suits. I'm always looking to push past social constructs and force people to question what they know about the world. But don't get me wrong, I'll make sure my child is prepared for any mean words people might say, and stays safe and happy. His teachers will know about the situation and will be asked to keep a close eye on it, if my child does decide to wear dresses or pink things to school, after being told what could happen, and how to handle that.

@missjess Exactly! Call me crazy but I haven't been told the sex of my baby and I am 90% certain I am carrying a masculine, cisgender male baby. I don't know why, it just really feels that way. But I want one or two more after this (years from now) and I honestly think I might be a little disappointed if one of them isn't lgbtq+. We don't have the science totally perfected for how lgbtq+ kids come along, but I just feel like me being lgbtq+ must make my chances a little higher. I might at least wind up with a totally straight, cis kid who just loves wearing the "opposite sex's" style. I don't wear makeup, I don't have my ears pierced (and my partner does), and I shop exclusively in the "men's" section. So maybe I'll have a little girl who thinks that's cool and dresses just like me lol. Well, with better style. I just wear whatever's easy to slip on in the morning. Dx

Oh I'm 100% straight! Very girly now. I was always girly but I was a bit of a tomboy in my younger years. My dad use to always said I should of been the boy lol but yeah just cause I played with my brothers toys and did boy stuff didn't mean I was going to be gay! And I think a lot of parents fear that with letting a child be gender neutral at a younger age these days with transexuality being so open now and with young kids. If my son is gay or trans then he is. That's who he is and I would never want him to feel ashamed of it! I have 2 gay family members, plus majority of my family are very excepting and could care a less like myself.

@missjess It's awesome that we have a gender-neutrally raised adult among us! If I may ask, what is your gender/sexuality? You may just be walking proof that being raised without gender norms doesn't make you gay! xD Those who think that are such morons, aren't they? And anyway, I was raised in pretty little dresses with piggie tail braids and buckle shoes, with pink everything (and I thought the "boy toys" aisle was off limits to girls) and I turned out to be genderqueer and androsexual!! xD Explain that, homophobes!

Also I was very much a tomboy so I don't mind at all how my daughter dresses or what she wants to play with either I literally went through 6-8th grade waring guys cloths and still got hit on by guys. LOL I also played sports with the guys and more and now I enjoy an occasional skirt or dress but not for me all the time.

I played with cars, trucks, mud, and bugs. I chose to do all that. I also will wear a dress and do all those things today. I am a woman

I was raised with 2 brothers. So I played with cars, trucks and all their toys. Played baseball and tagged along with them and their friends. My dad always took us fishing and we raced snowmobiles and whatever else! I still loved my Barbies and girl stuff too. So I don't see the harm in it. My son is going to have 2 sisters so I'm sure it will be the same way. Idk how my bf will react to him playing with girl stuff. He's pretty outgoing and open minded but honestly idk, plus it will be his only son and he wants him to be a hockey player like him starting at a young age. But ultimately it's up to my baby what he chooses.

@bugmama Awesome! :) So glad to hear there are others out there. That's about the same thing I'll be doing. The number one thing I think I'll have a lot of fun with is letting my child pick out their own clothes, and hairstyle. As soon as they're old enough to form an opinion I'll let them walk around the store and pick out any clothes from any section as long as they fit (and are appropriate) and I'm really hoping for some cute little tutus on my boys and bowties and fedoras on my girls lol it would put a smile on my face to see them explore. <3

@6215teenmom Some parents (like me) choose to raise their kids without pushing socially-constructed gender norms on them. For instance, all children regardless of sex can play with all kinds of toys. Boys can play with Barbies, girls can play with trucks. And all kids regardless of sex can wear whatever they want to wear. Boys can wear dresses, girls can wear ties, boys can wear pink, girls can wear blue, etc. It's just allowing them to express themselves freely without anyone telling them that they can't be a certain way. It helps them explore the world a little more, and you might wind up with gentler boys who play with dolls, and tougher girls who play with trucks, etc.

I guess technically I do with my son since I don't discriminate what he plays with toy wise, he has my little ponies, he has baby dolls and more, also he likes a lot of my pajamas like I had a hello kitty warm shirt that was fuzzy and pink he would wear it out and to sleep etc. I don't mind if he asked for a pink shirt I would get it for him. I also don't say spacific colors or toys are for boys or girls. He has beads and builds things with them and much much more.

@mimiz, oh! I've never heard of that! cool!

It's kind of like your child choosing what gender they want to categorize with rather than you forcing them freedom of expression @6215teenmom

@gallyzephie8715, I'm not even sure what that really means....explain?