Mini vent/rant: so my original shower date was July 30th which my boyfriend made this HUGE fuss about, to the point…
Mini vent/rant: so my original shower date was July 30th which my boyfriend made this HUGE fuss about, to the point where we were in this big argument (when he isn't paying for anything or helping out with it). I then agreed because I was tired of arguing with him, to move my shower date, to now find out that he's (completely spur of the moment) "helping" throw his brother a surprise party on that day AND helping pay for it which includes giving a deposit on the place they're throwing it at, none of which he's helping me do for the shower and I know that his mother has something to do with the whole thing of him helping pay and all of his feelings about the original date I picked, and I'm 100% sure I'm not invited to this party although he took some of my shower ideas, and asked me for help with stuff for this party. It's beyond irritating especially since this is both of our first child and I'm doing 110% of everything while he runs around acting like nothing huge is about to happen and like we don't have stuff to be buying and doing.
Eniya Gates·
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You have every right to be upset I understand he wants to help his brother out but y'all baby comes first & y'all baby shower should definitely come first he should be helping you pay for stuff instead of helping his brother
Jenn Conyers·
Мама дочки (3 года), беременна (25 нед.)
@egates, thanks Hun, like literally I wouldn't mind if he was like "here's something for the shower" or picked up some stuff from his job that I need for a few things I have to DIY for it and then with his leftover after we bought baby stuff and shower stuff gave them whatever because it's not like I don't work and solely rely on him, but I definitely need his help and literally everything I bring up shower related to him is like pure torture and I always get "well is that necessary? Like you're being extra and making this bigger than it needs to be." But he's ready to drain his money and give his mother everything he has and then some to help her with this surprise party for his brother just because he's turning 18 and graduated high school when it's not like both his parents aren't working making decent money or something to do it themselves, they just don't budget accordingly. Literally my parents have taken care of the location and my dad's taking care of a photographer and my cousin's taking care of my cake and my mom is taking care of food and stuff when we're already in the process of moving so we're all pretty financially strapped, and he's done not a single thing except complain, but he's always the first person to bring it up to his friends and family about how WE're planning the shower and whatnot and what's going to be involved and the theme like he's so into it and doing stuff.
Eniya Gates·
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That's not right at all I could understand if he was just like mom I'll give you whatever I can after I put up money for my baby shower and stuff he makes it seem like your making it a big deal because he doesn't really care to spend his money on something that means a lot to you & that's not right being that his little brother has both his parents in his life there is no excuse why he can't help you out first then help them or simply just give his little brother a congrats card with like $50 in it, I definitely understand where your coming from & understand how you feel because it's your first child & you want to have a nice baby shower that you & your friends & family will enjoy I feel the same exact way my sons father is only paying for our maternity pictures & the photographer for our baby shower my parents is basically paying for everything else so when he complains about why I want to have ornaments for people to take home & candy bags for the little kids that are going to be coming & stuff I start going off because it's not like he's helping me pay for that stuff or making it happen 😒 if your baby's father is telling his parents you guys are planning a baby shower he needs to pull his weight & really help out its no reason why your pregnant basically planning a baby shower on your own that's very selfish