It is. Man I over elaborate. What was my original question again..

That's terrible

Marriage over soon now too.

When I caught him.. We knew it was over. How I caught him- I thought I heard a sound similar to bricks hitting the floor. It was late night so I ran from the living room to the girls' bedroom thinking For Sure that my oldest had fallen Hard.. Maybe on furniture or Something loud.. What I find is my (she was one at the time) youngest sitting up crying, my oldest under the covers, and him on the bed. He tells me she had woken up so he went in there to make her go back to sleep. "And it worked" he says, "she's asleep now." Then he tells me, "they don't love me any less because of it." I say parenting classes.. That I'll go too because I know I'm too permissive. He says no- because he's not wrong. Anyway, when one has kids.. The whole game changes. He was a great guy, and a best friend.. Until I saw him with my kids. Friendship over.

We're both originally from Texas. I married my best friend of 5 years and asked him to do one thing: not to spank my children. So he did it in private, and they were terrified- because they were toddlers who couldn't Speak to Tell me what was going on. They could only run behind the couch and cry every time he came home.. For 5 months. There are worse men out there.. But to my kids who went from a no spanking home (I support spanking For Other Kids just not mine) to one where a man would take them alone and spank (to them- hit) them.