How to I talk to my OH about how I feel that his mum is too involved in the pregnancy without…

I'm feeling exactly like this but with his sister ... sorry to jump on your post but I'd be interested to hear any advice! xxx

No feel free lovely!! Xxx

What's she doing @lollypops xx

@mich77, she's constantly acting like its her baby when ever I see her saying things like I need her here and I need her now and how she will get a key cut to my house so she can just come in and see Isabella when ever she wants and that she will just take her and I won't get a look in (with my own daughter) and just constantly you can't do this that and the other, asking me if I will let her in the birthing room and I'm not even having my own mum in there, and just being too much involved for me and im not comfortable with it and I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and I don't know what to say xx

oooh intense @lollypops. is this her first grand child. I guess the only thing you can do is just be straight with her. you can do it in a nice joke way though. so if she says ooh can I come in the birthing room just say no sorry we've decided that it's just gonna be the two of us, or can I have a key cut so I can come in whenever I want, you could laugh and say, thanks for your offer but I think we'll be fine but I will deffo come to you for advice if I get stuck. just things like that. I think with big personalities like that you just need to stand your ground. she'll get over it xxx

You have to take what people say with a pinch of salt. The things she says probably come across in a different way to you due to hormones than she actually means. She obviously can't wait until baby is here and is excited like you. Don't take it to heart x

@lollypops, I had this same situation but with my mum, in the end I just had to be straight with her and put boundaries down otherwise she would be round everyday. she didn't like it but she's come round to the idea sort of still has little digs but knows I'm not going to change my mind. xx

Yeah it's her first grandchild so I can understand that's she's excited but it's my mums aswell and she is no where near involved it's so weird!! Yeah that's probably the best way to go about it but she's so opinionated and stuff I'm worried about making it awkward or upsetting her @mich77 this has got to be the worst situation ever haha xx

@charlottegilbert, I don't think it is my hormones because its first grandchild for both sides and my mum is there for me when I need it but OH mum is there round every corner pretty much telling me what do to and what not, everyone is excited but she just seems to be too involved more than anyone..

@abbiiqx I'm gunna get my OH to talk to her so I don't feel so awkward it's just bringing the topic up 🙈 xx

Oh well then I'd straight up tell her to piss off out of your business and leave you to get on with it yourselves without sticking her nose in! x

OMG u need to lay boundaries now o don't get on with mine our parenting styles are total opposites she hates that we are so independent and are making monkey the same way. We didn't tell anyone I was in labour with 🙈 not until after he came and she shot down and was in the room before I had chance to cover myself and I'd been stitched. we made her ring before she came as Mw was coming every day and needed to check stitches she accused me of being shit mother cos his hands were cold. I kept the door locked so she couldn't just turn up she only had hubbies number so could never get hold of me either. I had grief cos I bf it wasn't fair on her or hub apparently. I had grief for cloth nappies damaging his hips. baby sign damaging his speech the list is endless this time around she wants 🙈 when I'm in labour but we already decided on my mother as she will respect my need for him to meet baby before anyone else and not push herself in the room disregarding our wishes unlike his so we aren't telling anyone else except my mum til after wards

oh no @lollypops this would drive me crazy. my mum was upset when I told her I didn't want her at the birth of my first child but she quickly got over it. Deffo got to set the boundaries earlier rather than later and hopefully she'll just get the hint and step back 👌 I hated anyone spending time with my newborn last time...I felt like he was just all mine 😂 I don't like sharing! Haha xx