the one thing I asked my husband not to do is watch porn... unless I'm with him. he agreed. I'm very laid back.. he…

Can I ask why you don't want him to watch porn without you ?

Sounds like my husband except he has a memory card in his phone full of it. Men are pervs!

because 1: I'm a very self conscious person and the thought of him watching hot girls have sex makes me hate myself and 2: only way I want him getting off is with me.@babyattmore,

Hm I think you should try to work on your self esteem dear. The fact that you're self conscious really has nothing to do with your husband nor something he can control. Restricting his personal time is quite controlling and not healthy. It's hard but you gotta love yourself first and foremost.

first off we had an agreement that he wouldn't watch porn before we started getting serious and he understands where I'm coming from. It's not like I'm taking away hid "personal" time because I don't care what he does as long as he doesn't watch porn. I see nothing controlling about me asking one thing of him. I've done everything to make him happy including a threesome where he fucked another girl. I'm not asking too much of him. @mamamoonbaby

@mamamoonbaby, could not agree more.

I agree also ^ I'm not even going to lie, I've watched porn myself from time to time, it doesn't mean he wants anyone else, it's just for the imagination, as long as he's not obsessing over it and he's not cheating then there should be no issue

he has one with a 🌟 so it's in his favorites list. I guess you will need to talk him about this. good luck id rather have my man watch porn then go out and physically cheat on me.

@mommy2be711, truly it sounds like y'all have more underlining issues than him watching porn. It doesn't seem like you're too thrilled with him fucking someone else even in a three some. The porn seems like a scapegoat to me. I've ruined many great relationships giving childish ultimatums and setting unreasonable boundaries. Again I say work on loving yourself first and foremost and maybe you'll figure out the rest. I wish you the best honestly.

I don't care if he watches porn. I just want to be with him and having fun. I'm not asking too much. like I said before I've done everything to make him happy including a threesome where fucked another girl. @cubanese @hugoandrosiesmama @summerbaby89

@summerbaby89, I agree. We both watch porn. We also have trust in our relationship and talk about our fantasies openly and honestly. Telling someone not to do something is just plain controlling.

I understand where @mommy2be711 is coming although i don't have a problem with my husband watching porn without me but they did have a agreement that was broken. What may be okay with some females just isn't okay with the next chick doesn't mean that she's wrong. We all have different views on things. 🤔

lol there is no underlying issue. I enjoyed watching him Fuck another girl and I'll do it again in a heartbeat. there's nothing wrong with me wanting sexual stuff to be between me and him whether it's watching porn together or me watching him with another girl. @mamamoonbaby

exactly @babyattmore THANK YOU

@mommy2be711, okay. I wish you the best.

You let him fuck another woman and enjoyed watching it but it's not ok for him to watch porn? Listen, I get that we all have preferences for things but this is just one that I don't get. Especially since I love porn and watch it with my wife a fair amount. But hey, all I can do is wish you two luck and hope that your problems settle.

i think watching porn is normal with or without u. its normal. now cheating or havin sex with other women is wrong but porn isnt bad. its just videos.

no actually it didn't make me insecure cuz we were doing something sexual TOGETHER. The fact is I try to make him happy sexually because I know how men are... I asked him not to do one thing and he goes and does it. that's the point here. @cubanese

because we aren't doing it together. To me it kind of feels like cheating because we did have an agreement. Why sneak behind my back if you wanna watch it let's get kinky and honestly I don't think it would bother me as much if I weren't practically begging for sex cuz he isn't giving me any for the past month because "he's scared" @cubanese

And there's the underlining issue. You don't trust him, he's not giving you sex and you're afraid he might cheat. Just my opinion of course. I'd focus on that and talk to him about your fears.

I'm having a huge problem with this also @mommy2be711

for the same reasons you do don't let anyone tell you how to feel@mommy2be711