My SO mom lives here in town and I could probably arrange to have them go there a few days a week. That's a great idea!

It's not selfish, don't feel bad. We all have thoughts like that. You are entitled to some time to bond. Have you reached out to family or friends that could take them once or twice a week? I know with my son I need a day off here and there, it's ok to ask for that.

Set up a few play dates. You may feel different once baby is here

@indigenousmommy, thank you... I agree... I feel so selfish, I just have no where else to vent about it ☹️ I feel like a big jerk.

I totally agree but they seem to think they have to be entertained at all times... It drives me nuts... I don't want to hurt my SO feelings because we don't get them very often, and I don't want to hurt their feelings by saying go away... But I just wanna shout from the roof top that I just want this experience for me and my SO. 😭 I'm never selfish and I would normally sacrifice my needs or wants for anyone... This is just so important to me, I don't know what to do ☹️ ugh

Maybe you can get them into some sort of summer program so that you'll have some time to yourself at least a couple hours a day. Unfortunately when you get together with a SO who has other children you have to learn how to let them into your heart and care for them like your own children. I'm sure they'll be excited to help with the baby at least? Little girls love that stuff. Try to include them and softly tell them what you need while they are living with you, when to give you alone time/privacy. Good luck, I know it's hard.

They are old enough to not need babysitting. They should be able to entertain themselves. I know I came home and watched my 5 year old brother after school and in summers starting at 10. They should be fine in the house/yard if you're in your room or whatever.