i am adopted. my bio-mom was 21 when she gave me up for adoption. when I found out at 16 that I was adopted, I was angry, hurt, betrayed , abandoned and confused. my parents had been keeping it a secret and everybody else in my family. At the time I didn't realize that my parents loved me so much that they wanted me all to their selves and didn't want me to feel not part of the family. For years I had this hatred of how I was told and how could they lie to me . At 20 years old my bio-mom found me on facebook and wrote me. Tear's came to my eyes and I looked just like her. i met her a year later and she wanted the best life for me and i couldn't thank her enough. i understood that the situation was not right and that she did the most self-less act you could ever make for your child. MAKING THEIR NEEDS FIRST BEFORE YOUR OWN. i have a wonderful relationship with her. i have siblings and a whole new family. my mom still wants me to herself but she understands and takes it day by day. when people say they don't believe I'm adoption that's fine. they are entitled to their opinion and they just don't understand. giving up your child is hard. you go everyday without your other half. you get reminded of them by everything . you second guess yourself and hope that he or she will have a better life then you could give.

@dani.j, Awe thanks! I'm so glad to hear that your are going to foster and then want to adopt! There are so many children out there that need good homes!! God Bless you on this journey!

@whitney, your family is absolutely beautiful and your story has tears in my eyes. I feel really strongly about fostering with the intention of adopting within the next 5 years, and hearing how much your life changed for the good because of your parents... It inspires me all that much more. Thank you for sharing! ❤️

We are hoping to adopt child #2 after a year of trying with PCOS. people keep asking why we're giving up so soon, but mothering a child is the same regardless of where they originate, right? Why not grow our family not only by a baby, but by a birth family too? We're excited for our journey! ❤

I am adopted and I gave my son up for adoption almost 11 years ago. Mine was closed. His is open. I was adopted at 11 months old and my parents have always told me the truth about it. Because of my biological mom's unselfish decision to give me up I was given the life my biological family was unable to provide me. I grew up in a stable loving environment that was free of abuse and substance dependence. When my son was born I was young and in the midst of a horrible addiction. His dad and I were not able to take care of ourselves let alone a baby. I was also on my way to prison. So rather then drag my son through my messed up life and through the foster care system I choose to give him the life I knew he deserved. The life my own biological mother had once given me. I choose a family through the Nebraska Children's Home and gave them my son to raise as their own. Now that I am older and have finally gotten my act together I see him regularly and get to watch him grow up. He is well adjusted and very much loved. I know the decision I made was extremely difficult and it still hurts sometimes but I am at peace with it and have been since the day I placed him in his mom's arms. If you would like to know more please feel free to contact me. I am an open book about this.

@whitney, I understand what you mean I'm not being ignorance because I'm giving my opinion see in your case adoption is great an can help an save many lives I love your story an I'm sorry that happened to your mom an you an your siblings the picture is beautiful . @ashley_abby20

@ashley_abby20, Just ignorance. Not everyone chooses to get pregnant. There's rape, there's parents that feel like their baby would have a better life with someone else, there's people that aren't ready, there are children in homes that are unsafe. Children being neglected, abused ect.. There's always a place for adoption. There are couples and singles not able to have children on their own and adoption can give them that. I was adopted at age 9. Until that time I was in a very abusive, neglected home. I watched my biological dad drag my mother down the stairs and rape her, meaning she would have more and more children. He was controlling and abusive. I have 11 siblings because of that. One day he decided to leave and my mother had no choice but to put us up for adoption. There was no way she could raise and support 12 children on her own. It was the hardest decision of her life but because my biological dad wouldn't let her have a job and took the little money they did have it was impossible for her to keep all of us. I was the 5th youngest of the 12. Me and my 4 younger siblings were adopted to one family. We grew up healthy and happy and are fulfilling life. When I turned 18 I got in contact with my bio mom and there rest of my siblings and I have a relationship with all of them besides my bio dad. My adopted parents saved our lives and gave us the childhood we deserved. They are what I consider my parents and my bio mom is more so like an aunt to me. Adoption holds a purpose. I couldn't imagine where I would be if I wasn't adopted.

and I'm not saying young mothers are bad at all before anyone misunderstands... just a lot of extremely young parents dont want their childhood to end and end up doing what mine did.

I support adoption because if that person is too young or unfit then that child has a bad chance of a future. I pray that people who are unable do give their child to someone who can't have children but want children and can take care of them. my mom was 15 years old when she had me and she kept me... it was a horrible horrible life until I was taken into foster care at 12 and adopted at 14. so to the comment above, I do understand the whole "well you had the child, you are responsible for the child." but please be responsible and choose to give that child a life they would never have a chance at with someone unfit to parent.

@preggie_usa, I don't support adoption too much I hv nothing against it but if you choose to hv a child it's your child not for you to give it up I don't understand how it wouldn't bother you that maybe one day your child might want or need you my heart is broken for that....I will never be able to give my child to strangers you can't trust no one

@babygirl224, How old are you?

I myself is a adopted child. if any would be parent are interested on a adopted child's point of view about the whole looking for birth parents or questions about birth parents I be willing to answer some questions

@summerof16, we would love to hear your story. Message us if you can. We're writing the post next week. Thank you

I placed my first baby... I'd be willing and interested in answering some questions! @mom.life_USA @preggie_USA

I wholeheartedly want to adopt a child. But, my husband can't get behind the idea. He's afraid of "nature vs nurture" and thinks there is a chance the child may have behavioral issues. (Although I personally think that can happen anytime, anywhere.) I personally would be absolutely heartbroken if I adopted a child and then they had the drive to seek out their biological mother/father. The way I look at it is.. IM your mother. NOT the women who gave birth to you.. I wouldn't want my child out searching for someone who gave them up.

My mom always had a huge heart for adoption and growing up I shared that with her. I was the only girl in our family for a while with three brothers and my mom and I kept bugging my dad to adopt and when it finally worked out for our family we decided to adopt my sister from China. It really made our family feel complete . So ever since I was a little girl I have wanted to adopt as well. I would like to adopt a child somewhere between the ages of 5-10 rather than an infant. My sister was a baby when we got her but my mom told me about all the older children she met while there and how much they wanted a home and how some may never get the chance for one. I'm thinking Haiti ..

I was adopted at birth because my bio mom was too young and alone to care for me. I am eternally grateful to her for the strength it took to give me up to a family who couldn't have their own kids but could give me a better life. I hope to be able to adopt someday

im considering strongly adoption i have a 14 month old daughter already n it was a tough time getting established with her i really did it alone n i cant see myself doing that again when i can give someone who cant have one the chance to enjoy life my concern is my family keep trying to change my mind when they didnt help with my daughter

I was raised for 11 years by my biological family and that was bad... then I was placed in foster care at 11 and adopted at 13... it was great til I was raped by my foster brother at 15 and became pregnant at 15 gave birth to my baby girl and I choose an opened adoption.. so this way if she had questions she could ask me and I chose her family to know she would always be taken care of far better then I was as a child.... I had bad things happen to me both not being adopted and being adopted but these things happen for reasons to shape you and mold you into the person you are...@babygirl224, I think you are doing what's best and I applaud you because its not an easy thing and I know....if you need anyone to talk to about how you are feeling I will be more then honored to help you thru this difficult time.

I was adopted. I have mixed feelings about adoptions. One hand I wish I wasn't adopted because the people that adopted me just wanted the money that came with me until I turned 18. They bassically adopted me then shipped me off to other people to care for me until they got tired of me and off I went to someone else. On the other hand if I wasn't adopted I would have stayed in the foster system and I wonder how my life would have turned out. But I do know when I get older I do want to adopt and give a child the life I never had when I was adopted.

Im considering adoption I'm to young to keep my baby