Am I wrong for thinking he doesn't deserve to be in my sons life? He hasn't wanted anything to do with this baby until last week. When I told him I was pregnant he begged me to get an abortion. He didn't tell his family about the baby until last week. Literally. He hasn't given me money, diapers, anything at all for the baby. And suddenly he expects me to just let him have the baby 50/50. Like no.. It doesn't work that way, and he thinks he should get full custody?
Комментарии
@Mommytoprincessmckenzie, oh I will! I haven't deleted any of our messages, I always thought I might need them some day lol
@mommytoprincessmckenzie, I actually think I do of I look back in our messages far enough!
Do you have a message from him saying he wanted you to get an abortion? Or was it in person?
@mommytoprincessmckenzie, lol that's what I'm trying to do! Like its funny how he says he'll file for full custody and he "promises" the he will win. Like no I highly doubt that. I'm just gonna laugh about it we'll see what happens
My BD said to me in the middle of my pregnancy "this will be a fun custody battle" all I did was laugh
@mommytoprincessmckenzie, yeah that's what I thought! And I'm faaaarrrr from unfit so I should have no issues lol it's just irritating that he even THINKS he would ever get full custody of him over me
Court favors the mother. Unless the father has proof that you are unfit. If he can't do that, all he'll get is visitation rights.
@kebarnes, I know that's probably what will happen. He just needs to grow up..
@arivera64, thank you i hope so too! @debbiecakez22 exactly.. That's literally exactly how these past 9 months have gone for me.. He hasn't gone to 1 appointment, bought 1 thing or even told 1 person until a week ago.. But he thinks he deserves to be a dad.. It's just so wrong and not fair
@haiydensmomma, he sounds like a child to me. when the baby gets here and he actually has to change a diaper and feed a baby he may decide he doesn't want to do it anymore. that sounds horrible to say but it sounds like that's the kind of person he is.
you're not wrong at all me and my ex were trying so long to have a baby he left me for another female and we ended up having a one-night stand and that's when I fell pregnant when I told him I was pregnant he blocked me on Facebook and changed his phone number and from what I'm hearing hid from his family is that he wants nothing to do with this baby so if it ever comes a day that he reaches out to me before I have my baby I absolutely don't want anything to do with him I don't want him to be at the birth or anything you have every right to feel the way you feel because it's not fair that a man can get you pregnant and just walk away and don't have to do anything else not come to a doctor's visit or anything but think he can just oh I want to be involved now whenever he wants no no no you are completely right
Well mama bear, you know the situation and i think in the end you should do what you feel is best. I hope things work out for the better for you guys. Good luck with everything
@arivera64, I've tried to meet up with him to discuss things and he tried sending his mom & sister to talk to me. I've told him he could see him if he wanted to come visit but he wouldn't be having him by himself & he got mad. He's just not willing to work with me, he wants to have him by himself as much as I'll have him by myself, and he doesn't even have a damn car seat.
I don't think it's an excuse, but.....i do think you should give him the opportunity to prove himself. Maybe you guys could settle out of court if he does. Meet for lunch. Ask him what his plans are to help you support the baby now that he wants to be in the childs life. Set up times that he will be allowed to come over and help you parent and learn how to properly care for the baby. If he doesn't step up to that then let his ass take you to court.
@arivera64, he parties all the time, and lives with his mom. He's not in school, doesn't work and is literally doing nothing with his life. He just acted like the baby didn't exist and begged me not to tell anyone the baby was his.. I just don't think he deserves a chance now when I've given him a thousand chances to grow up and be around and he blew them off
If he wants to change and show an effort to participate in his childs life he should be allowed to. If he isn't on drugs, has a place to live etc.....most likely if you guys go to court he will be allowed partial custody. If he wants to be there now, you should let him.
@newmommy_2016, exactly omg thank you! he literally acts like a little kid. Like you did this, not your mom, I don't have to communicate with her if I don't want to? I'm sorry you're in the same boat.. I find it incredibly annoying lol
I think it's silly how he says "my mom" what is he 12? He don't need his moms permission. You aren't wrong at all girl. I'm in the same boat !
Yesterday I went out with my boyfriend went to watch a movie, me and him don't live together yet. but point is yesterday when he was dropping me off his like sleep over at my house witch the mom and dad lives. I said no,
his response was why is everyone deciding or making choices for you and their going to do the same with the baby, when I know that's not true. what he thinks is that my mom tells me not to sleep over. So he left all mad. and I felt in my heart that he went on and cheated on me...
Am I wrong to be upset? Last night I was running a fever, weak, tired, sore, my left boob feels like it got used as a punching bag. I asked my husband to call out of work today to help me with the kid so I could get some rest. He went to work. I texted him this morning. Part of me thinks I mean. The other part of me thinks I was fine for saying that because he should've stayed home with us.
At What Age Should a Child Make Their Own Breakfast?
Make your own breakfast!
At what age do you think a child should be making their own breakfast? I have a 10 year old and I think he is perfectly capable of making himself breakfast. It doesn't take rocket science to put some waffles into the toaster, or microwave some pancakes. My husband insists that he needs to have breakfast made for him because if we left it up to him he wouldn't eat enough and it would take him forever.
Am I wrong for telling my Bd that because we not Married my baby don't have to have his last name? He really got mad and told me I was project n ignorant. Crazy part is I was thinking about giving my baby his middle and last name
Boyfriend hasnt talked to me in 2 days, almost 3 now. Haven't seen him in almost 2 weeks. I dont think I can keep this baby if he isnt around
@haiydensmomma, Man, that sucks. This is super long. Lol. Sorry. Just wanted to share my experience. My cousin went through the same exact thing recently. The BD wanted her to have an abortion. Didn't want to tell anyone, pay for anything, help her out, etc. The first time they went to court he had hrly visits due to her breastfeeding and baby being to small for overnights. The courts really didn't see any reason the father shouldn't be in the child's life. They actually frown upon any parent who refuses to allow a parent/child relationship. That part will look bad on you in court. Him telling you that you need to speak to his mom or sister will look bad on him in court. It shows he is not willing to communicate and how will you co-parent that way. Now, you don't have to allow him at the hospital or to sign the acknowledgement of paternity or birth certificate. So, that will be his first step in court. He first has to prove paternity. But once he does it's fair share in court. You have to prove how unfit he is with hard evidence from now until forever. Don't give him any reasons to prove you that way. The courts would prefer that y'all could come to an agreement in custody with out them having to interfere. I see that being unlikely if he has to have his mom for everything. So just be prepared in advance. Good luck.