ADVICE PLEASE. so I'm only 18 & live at home with my parents. I know my mom is cheating 100% but she's still against me moving in with my baby daddy. I really don't want to be home anymore because she's lying to me & my dad. do I find an apartment with my boyfriend or stay at home?

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Brittany Elliott·Мама дочки (9 лет)

Hey! The truth of it is, you're legally allowed to do what you want. If you want to move out (and can financially support yourself, of course) do it. I moved out at 19. My momma told me "you can do what you want but you know, I don't approve." & that was that. If you're just afraid of hurting her feelings, I promise you she will get over it eventually.

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Tee·Мама четверых детей

Your mother is a grown woman, and eventually you will need your own space, but if it isn't affecting you it's best to save your money and then go. I wish I had the choice when I was your age to stay or go. I would have stayed.

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I'm 19 and trying to move out. Between the both of us we make like 250 a week and I don't think we can do it but it depends on how expensive housing around you is. You could look into a 1 bedroom or a studio apartment for now until you get used to living on your own. Just make sure you have enough for diapers formula wipes bottles cereal (when you come to that) your own food gas car insurance car payments factor all of that in, then see what is left over. If there's 700/m left over try to find somewhere 5-600 just so you have a little wiggle room with your money.

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Stacy Foster·Мама дочки (8 лет)

I wouldn't tell him because that part isn't for you to tell. It may make things worse. What is done in the dark always comes to the light anyway. Your main focus is you and the baby right now. You don't want extra stress. If moving with your child's father is a good option, I'd do it.

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Kayla·Мама дочки (9 лет)

@kinsleysmommy97, I would seriously look into a budget of some kind. Because you're going to be more miserable in an apartment on your own that you realize too late you can't afford than if you stay at home and be uncomfortable with your parents situation. Just trying to be practical and honest.

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Taylor·Мама дочки (9 лет)

I don't even think I could tell my dad. I don't want to see him hurt.. @lovingbabykadence

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Kayla·Мама дочки (9 лет)

Thank you @lovingbabykadence 😂

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Stacy Foster·Мама дочки (8 лет)

I agree with @mrsreneau And y'all wrong for telling her to tell her Dad and move as soon as she does 😂😂😂😂😂

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Taylor·Мама дочки (9 лет)

I'm on wic currently. & the funny thing is that I had my shower & the stuff I got from the shower like wipes & powder my parents took of mine. @mrsreneau

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Kayla·Мама дочки (9 лет)

I would make a budget. See how much you can afford for rent. And see if you can find something. But make sure you factor in baby costs. Don't leave and put yourself in a situation where you can't afford diapers, food, etc. but there are also programs like SNAP (food stamps), section 8 housing, WIC, that could help you along.

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Daijah·Мама дочки (9 лет)

Whatever she's doing on the side doesn't have anything to do with you, if you feel unsafe at home then that's a more valid reason to move in with your child's father but if it's just because your mom is cheating... No. You are 18 though and legally she can't tell you to do anything you don't want to do. Tell your dad what's she's doing and then you decide if you want to go with him or not.

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Rachel Cleveland·Мама дочки (9 лет)

ur 18 and u should do what u think is best for u and ur baby

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Leave and go with ur boyfriend

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yes i agree with @mimiz :)

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Taylor·Мама дочки (9 лет)

my bf makes round about 300-400 a week @mrsreneau

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Kayla·Мама дочки (9 лет)

Depends if you have the financial means to move out, in my opinion. But I understand it being uncomfortable.

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Mimi·Мама дочки (10 лет)

You're an adult move on with your life you need to remove all negativity before your child comes

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Keneesha·Мама двоих (9 лет, 10 лет)

leave and tell your dad about your mom.

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