*mc post don't read ahead if it will upset you!* Misscarrying natural has to be one the hardest…

I'm so sorry for your loss hun...I have been through a natural miscarriage before and it's absolutely awful...it seems like you're doing all the right things and it will be painful until you pass your baby unfortunately hun, just keep doing what you're doing and try to sleep through as much as you can. The only thing that may make a difference is a very strong painkiller ...once again I'm very sorry you're having to go through this xxx

thank you for your advice @nadsx316 i've avoided writing anything on here as not to upset anyone but the pain is so bad I just needed some advice. xx

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've been through it too and I was surprised by the pain. It just hadn't occurred to me that it would be so painful! I was in hospital and given morphine. If you're struggling you need to kick up a fuss xx

I contemplated going in @babyslack but I just don't fancy sitting in a and e for 7 hours. I went in with my last one as I didn't know I was miscarrying last time. This time they couldn't help me when they told me I had lost the baby as I had to wait to have it confirmed a week later (NHS guidelines suck!) I'm supposed to go in Thursday for them to do anything. It's disgusting! xx

aww hun, you have a right to post too and you did give a warning...you need support at a time like this so please don't feel afraid to reach out, if you ever need a chat I'm only a private message away. If you feel like what they've given you isn't enough maybe go into A&E or the maternity department and see if they can give you something stronger to help you. it's bad enough you're going through this you shouldn't have to suffer in pain too xx

A&E were absolutely shocking with me, the doctor asked me if I was sure it was just a heavy period. Seriously!? 😡 I got transferred to the gynaecology ward though and they were lovely there. Perhaps call 111 and explain that you're in lots in pain and see what they suggest. Maybe the emergency docs could help? I'm not sure but make sure you rest xx

I had a natural miscarriage and I don't really think there's a lot that will help until it's gone really sorry for your loss and you shouldn't worry about upsetting ppl that's what this page is for and I'm sour there are a lot of us on hear that's been thro it and can give you advice if you need it I didn't really have any one to talk to when it happened to me for a long time and when I finally did it was like a weight being lifted I'm not going to tell you can try agen in a few moths because I felt like slapping ppl when they said that to me because I felt like saying that won't bring this one back tho but it dose get better xx

That means a lot @nadsx316 thanks. The hospital haven't actually given me anything. They told me on Thursday that I had lost them and then they sent me on my merry way? cause they were measuring under 7mm NHS guidelines say they can't do anything until a week later? it's messed up xx

I may ring 111 @babyslack I've just taken some more pain killers so I'll see if that will ease it slightly I have also (TMI) just passed a really large clot (again I'm really sorry for typing this) and the pain has gone down quite a bit since it happened 😕

@tresea, I completely get what your saying I had no one to talk to last time and I also felt weird talking to my OH about it as I felt I had let him down I drank quite a bit until I even mentioned it to someone. That's why I'm trying really hard to be open about it all this time xx

I think it's a really hard thing to talk to your OH about as they don't fully understand but it's also a very hard thing to be open to anyone about but really helps if there's someone you can trust I lost my second babys twin as well and found it a lot better because I talked about it right away and got a lot of sport xx

No problem hun, you are very welcome...I can't believe that they can treat people like this I'm so sorry...they should still offer some sort of help regardless of their size, it's an awful experience to go through and you get contractions too so why not make sure that the mother is as comfortable as possible!...If the pain continues to get worse and you find that it's too much to bare then you should go to A&E because I'm sure they'll help you there, it's wrong that you're having to go through this without any medical care xx

I had one 3 weeks ago (my first pregnancy too) I actually was at work and ended up going to the hospital. they gave me oral morth and sent me home. I layer on the couch in all 4s in the end with a hot water bottle and kept taking Co codamol. so sorry for your loss hun I honestly feel your pain xxx

I agree @tresea not only that I found it a lot easier to express myself through typing then I do in person so this app and all you ladies are a godsend 😘

I couldn't believe it when they sent me away @nadsx316 they knew that I had obviously lost them cause in 3 days he shrunk my 0.5mm but they still couldn't do anything was the stupidest thing I've ever heard xx

@mrs_b, omg I couldn't imagine going through all this at work. I'm so sorry to hear you've been through this too. xx

I kept it very quiet when I miscarried too. Only my mum and best friend (and OH obviously) knew I was even pregnant so I just kept everything to myself and didn't talk to anyone. I signed up to do some fundraising for Genesis Research Trust who find research into miscarriage and stillbirth etc, and posted a blog post telling everyone what had happened to me and why I'm fundraising. It helped me so much! It's hard to open up but it does help. You will get through it and you will be stronger on the other side. Your gorgeous little angel baby will be watching over you forever and there will be a day when your rainbow will come ❤️ xx

@babyslack, that is an amazing thing to do. I was thinking of doing some kind of event for that charity but in order to get the support etc for it i would have to tell more people why I'm doing it and I'm not sure I could face that yet. maybe in time hopefully. xx ps your last sentence brought a tear to my eye. It is the loveliest sentence I've heard xx

Ahh bless you just go at your own pace and take it easy. Just don't bottle everything up xx

Ahhh all the comments brought tears to my eyes. Heart rending @amyloux

I won't bottle it up again @babyslack I've learnt that it doesn't work 😘 and I know @mezaab It's had tears in my eyes all night xx

Feel free to post anytime you wish. This app gonna support you massively😘😘

Omg I'm so sorry to hear that hun I really think they need to make some changes into their policies and procedures because the way they're treating women only makes their suffering worse xx

@amyloux, I know exactly what you are going through emotionally but unfortunately when I miscarried naturally 4 weeks ago the physical pain wasn't bad. I hope that you find something to help with that and I hope emotionally you are doing better. If you ever wish to talk to anyone without feeling that you are burdening them please feel free to message me. I know that sometimes I can't talk to anyone about how I am feeling because I feel like I am putting it on them. I also feel sometimes as if people have moved on from my loss and although sometimes I do feel as though I have accepted my tragedy sometimes I am hit with a wave of sadness and loss so strong that it leaves me breathless for a while.

I am hear as a listening ear if you ever need it.