My bf's friend has been over all night. I've been quiet and let them play video games even though it's almost 1 am and I'm tired. I haven't complained once about anything, although there's a lot to complain about with this situation. Like how loud they are or the fact that they're smoking in the house, or even how they're being dicks to me for no reason.
But the minute I start talking my boyfriend interrupts me constantly and acts like I don't matter. We're already having some issues lately; this isn't making it better.
I hate how insignificant he makes me feel sometimes.
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guys are weird like that but it is not appropriate to brush you off like that, you are not doing anything wrong and sure it is important for him to have the time with his friend for once you two have the baby the dynamic will completely change and he will be needed on call at all times and brushing you off will not fly with the baby. I feel like a big part of the problem is that most men don't realize that they are in fact pregnant too, it's not just us women. you, him, and the baby are a power unit- connected in a profoundly impacting manner. what you and him feel, do, think, say matters. that baby is aware he/she knows and feels everything, carrying the baby we can sense that, men as well they just need to recognize the connection and feel it. doing so can allow them to communicate with the baby as easily as we do, all he needs to do is be open to that connection. @jessicasharp anyway I wish happiness for the three of you good night and rest easy =)
I talked to him already. He said sorry. I mean, he's only like this when his friend is here. And I get that guys show off for their friends or whatever. But he's legitimately the biggest jerk around his friend. It's getting to the point that I don't even want to be around him if his friend is around. I'm literally just a huge inconvenience to him while his friend is here. I think I'm just tired and cranky, but I've had enough.
well you can pull your bf to the side and talk to him or voice yourself to both of them, not in a demeaning or authoritative manner (you won't get through to them being aggressive) you can't make them stop without coming off as a pushy gf and likely irritating your bf which would result in a fight and cry or passive aggression, instead be cool collective say how your feeling, you don't want to interrupt their play but it is late and you are pregnant, the sound is too much for you and you'd appreciate if they didn't smoke inside (cigarettes is a big no-no, pot is different but if you don't want the smoke around they should respect that again your the one that's pregnant and they can't prove if it's safe or not for pregnant women and babies, unfortunately there are no solid constructed studies done in relation to marijuana and pregnancy)
Thank you @loveless.