So hub's bestie is getting married on the 15th July, I'm due on the first (will probably go over)…
So hub's bestie is getting married on the 15th July, I'm due on the first (will probably go over) and we've all been invited to the wedding (hopefully I'll be up for it, but it might be kev goes on his own especially if I've gone really far over/had a c-section etc) last night the MIL asked are you taking the baby? I replied if I go, the baby is coming. To which she said me and Lisa (my SIL, not always nice to me) can babysit, we're coming in the evening we could bring baby then. I was like er no, my baby is probably going to be less than 15 days old, I'm not leaving it especially for such a long time! Little bit more about how they would be more than happy etc, and I had to say when my baby is that young, I don't want it in a different room from me, there's no way I'm going to a wedding and leaving baby behind!! Plus I'm planning on breastfeeding, how would that work? To this I got, you say that but after a couple of weeks you'll be like take it!! WTF? No I fucking won't! I know they are excited but if they think I'm leaving baby with them for extended periods time or at all for at least the first few months they are very much mistaken! And as for all the babysitting they've offered (which I do appreciate) me and kev have never really had much of a social life, im not sure why they think I'm going to suddenly develop one! I know this might sound ungrateful but I haven't been cooking this little one to palm off on someone barely a fortnight after it's born!! And especially not wirh the SIL who has only really started being nice since I got pregnant. Sorry this is long but clearly the in-laws don't know me very well.
Briony Emmy·
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I am totally in agreement with you! While you appreciate the offer of them baby sitting they aren't understanding your point of view at all, why would you be fed up and want someone to take you child after a couple of weeks??? Good on you for standing your ground!xxx
mummywarwick·
Not something I usually do, I think my mummy instincts are kicking in! I think they're going to be in for a shock, I'm not going to be horrible but I'm going to be a lot firmer! xXx
mummywarwick·
yeah! I know they're going to adore the baby but it's our baby! it's not there so our parents can remember what it was like when we were babies or my SIL to use as practice and to decide if she wants kids or not! This is another reason why I want to breastfeed, I have to do it! We're going away in November for my FILs 60th and they've said oooh you won't need to do a thing! There is going to be a LOT of booze around that weekend and you are mistaken if you think I'm going to let you get pissed and pass my baby round!
Terri·
Мама сына (11 лет), беременна (25 нед.)
@mummywarwick my first borns fathers family was same. was glad when left him and they wasnt botheres anymore! luckily this babys family isnt at all like that and are so excited but i know they would never talk or try anything. its stressing cause its puts a downer on the pregnancy i would def drop few hints to your partner to have steady word and put it right before baby here so theres no tention @mummywarwick xx
mummywarwick·
@tg123456789, I think that's definitely in order, I mean have they told other people give it a week and she'll be begging us to babysit, what kind of person does that make me sound like?!
Terri·
Мама сына (11 лет), беременна (25 нед.)
belittling you and presuming what you will be like as a mother isnt fair @mummywarwick theyll know ur serious when u resent them for it and limit time with them cause of how theyve upset you. its all daunting enough without chit chat xx
Nicole·
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I'm glad I've seen your post, I'm in the same situation, due on 1st Nov and got a wedding on 12th that I really hope I'm able to make it too. I was stressing a bit about it, but to hear you so confident makes me feel better, thanks ☺