I just love how someone is tryna tell me I have to keep and feed their 15 year old son because she doesn't want him back home. I'm sorry... but 1, I never agreed to keep him for more than 2 days.. 2, we can't afford to feed him because he eats twice as much as me and our daughter put together. I plan meals ahead and we go by that when we buy food... we buy food for 2 adults and 1 toddler.. not 2 adults, 1 toddler and someone who eats the same amount as us all put together. My husband doesn't get paid until Thursday. I'm not using my baby's money that we have put up because someone doesn't want to suck it up and deal with the consequences of their shitty parenting. I'm so pissed right now....
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@mommyagain, that's exactly how it is. we are supposed to jump when they say jump but god forbid we ever ask for anything. his dad took 4000$ from him to pay off meth debts when we first got married. he would call threatening us everyday. it was so bad.. I wish we lived no where near any of em. my family is the total opposite of his so dealing with something like this is not at all what I'm used to. I guess that's why I don't really know how to or how to feel or not to feel.
@nicemmcha2015, I definitely know the feeling its the same on our end we have our life together so everybody think we're supposed to come to the rescue but nobody EVER helps us so we made ourselves unavailable back in like 2012 got tired of people using us
@kimberkatherine, @lindsey89 @mommyagain thanks ladies... yall definitely made me feel alot better. I felt crazy for feeling the way I do about the whole situation... but my husband is really one of the few that has his life together in his family so everyone's issues get thrown on us and I hate it. because they EXPECT help. they EXPECT us to pick up their slack... and we are the youngest of them all!!!!
@nicemmcha2015, Good for you, I mean it sucks that people end up in those situations but you don't want your newborn around that anyway.
As hard as it is to say no because it's family and all. DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!! Look out for you, your family, and their needs. That's the important thing right now. Not extended family BS. They can figure that out without pawning it on you!!! 💘
@nicemmcha2015, amen and then throw in the fact they're not brought up like yours and we don't have to pick up their slack they knew what unprotected sex came with so they need to deal with the consequences no matter how old or young the child is that's not some toy you can throw away when you're burned out
@kimberkatherine, that's what my husband called and told her. whether she wants him there or not he's being brought back sunday.
@irishtwinmom13, youre right. and the part of him taking up for her and her kicking him out is what gets me...
@mommyagain , taking care of your own is hard enough much less picking up someone else's slack.
@lindsey89 thr sad part everyone else in their family refused to take him... their grandparents live right next door to us and flat out said NO. :/
If I were in your position I would drop him off at his mom's place and tell her you aren't keeping him at your place. That isn't your responsibility because they have family issues. You have to look out for you and yours. I hope things work out girl.
@nicemmcha2015, wow that sounds like a handful. My step dad and little brother got into it physically a few years ago and because my mom lived there with my brother at my step dads, my brother was kicked out and my moms didn't have say. He's super controlling. I took my brother in and had take on a teen when I got my first one bedroom apartment bringing him back and forth to school before I worked full time. That was hard enough. I can't imagine what you are going through. Can't he go stay with the grandparents if they are around?? I don't think it's your responsibility to be honest not with a baby on the way any day and a little tot. I mean don't they realize how expensive having your own family is never mind taking in a teen who could eat a house out plus bare necessities. I would hate to say get children services involved that sh*t sucks just from being a by stander for my friend but if they (mom and dude) don't take him or grandparents what are you going to do?? U need to put your foot down. It was temporary but it's turned semi perms men and it's not the stress you need right now. You have your own family and with that comes a lot.
Sounds like my moms other daughter schools almost out and she's trying to catch up with me to give her 5 year old son away talking about he comes with everything girl don't nobody want that bad @$$ little boy sorry I have my own 1 year old and 1 on the way that's enough for me right now
let me rephrase so I'm not seeming to tell you what to do I apologize. that's what I would do in that situation.
No that's not right. you guys do not have to take care of her child that's her job not yours. call CPS and they will take him home. my mom tried that crap with me and the cops here told her to suck it up and deal with it till I turn 18. I wasn't unruly I just made my brother behave when she wouldn't and she babies him and got rid of me. if the situation is that bad at their home the law will step in. tell her either fork up the money or cone get her kid or you can have the law bring him back. if he was standing up for his mom she's a POS for not taking up for him. sorry that's a sore subject for me.
@lindsey89, that's ridiculous. the issue here is he got into a fist fight with his step dad. his mom took his step dad's side and kicked him out. we agreed to take him for a couple of days and once my husband picked him up she was like you can't bring him back because I don't want him here. .... the kid was taking up for her because her husband was talking to her like a dog. it's her fault the kid acts like he does... she let's him do whatever he wants... drink, sex, weed ect. our baby is due in 3 weeks... but I doubt I'll make it that long since I'm alrdy dilating and My daughter came at 38 weeks.. I can't take care of 2 babe's (a tot and a newborn ) plus him too.. I'm scared enough taking care of 2 much less 3. my husband's family always runs to him to fix their problems because we do so well for ourselves. but being used is getting old. we just built our 2 kids their own room and now our toddler is back to sleeping in our room because he's sleeping on her bed in her room.. I can't have 2 babies in our bedroom..... I just can't. I had just finally got her out.... I feel selfish but I know what I can and can't handle. and this is just too much crap.
My girlfriend is in the same situation kind of. Her twin sister is messed up on drugs and my friend has 5 kids already and a single mom and now she is taking care of her sisters child because she won't put the drugs down and become a real mother. The boy was out of school for a year because her sister wouldn't do the paperwork to make my friend guardian to register him for school. He's only 14.
@foehunnet, his mom has done flat-out told my husband she doesn't have any money and won't until the day they plan on getting him to leave. (he's my husband's brother. different mamas).
What is Yall opinion ?? Would you put your spouse first of kids ?? I would put Brandon first because without him none of this would be possible . (Doesn't mean I don't love my kids ) it's just that if we were having dinner is feed him first. This should be interesting....
At What Age Should a Child Make Their Own Breakfast?
Make your own breakfast!
At what age do you think a child should be making their own breakfast? I have a 10 year old and I think he is perfectly capable of making himself breakfast. It doesn't take rocket science to put some waffles into the toaster, or microwave some pancakes. My husband insists that he needs to have breakfast made for him because if we left it up to him he wouldn't eat enough and it would take him forever.
@itsamemario, you deleted your post before I could hit send but this is my comment: I don’t know if this answers your question but this is my answer.
My son is 7 and he knows race and color. Why? Because he himself comes from a family that is multi racial and because he has already experienced racism. I also believe as his mother it’s my job to teach him color and the cold hard truth about society. He knows what’s going on in this world. I’d be hurting him if I allowed him to blindly walk out...
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@nicemmcha2015, I understand I really do momma