Hey mommies im back at it again needing advice !I'm only 17... My baby's father could be facing some time in jail next month and I mean 10-15years...His mom bailed him out so he could have time at home his mom is the master and he's the puppet what ever she says goes...me and his mom fell out since I moved out because I wouldn't be her other puppet...my baby dad had got back with his ex two days after he got out ..my baby dad nor his mom have tried to contact me or see my son! I am going to apply for full custody and childsupport but before I do that I just wanted to know should If I contact them one more time before and ask if they want to be in my sons life ? or what should I do because I never had my mom and it always bothered me and my behaviour? Should I contact them soon as possible or just let them miss out ? I know there will be ALOT of different options but I need them...
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@m.m18, @baby1004 @marie_xo @kattastrophe @tahtahme I tryed to contact his dad he blocks me off everything but I haven't contacted his mom to ask why is he ignoring me but I don't know what else to do
Reach out, if you haven't tried before. you don't have to date or sleep with him, especially if he is sleeping with other women, just offer him to be a part of this
if he's going to jail and he has no income, child support is going to be hard to get. the state will give you cash aid or welfare probably..... everything else is up to you, is the dad's crime so bad he shouldn't be a parent? is his mom so bad that she'd never be a good grandma? and your parents to?... I couldn't stand living with my parents, but after I moved out, we had a slightly different relationship. they're also amazing GRANDparents------ of course all of these questions are rhetorical, and even if you told me the answers, it's not my place to tell you what to do with your family (:
you shouldnt have to chase them. when he's in prison doing his 10 yrs thats when it will hit him that his priorities are messed up.
Have you tried reaching out and giving them the opportunity to be in his life? If you have and they haven't then I would say to just go forward and do what you have to.
In my personal opinion. I don't think you should. If they wanted to see you or the baby they would make an effort. You shouldn't have to continuously go out of your way to please them. I mean if he was trying to see the baby and making effort my opinion would be way different but if he doesn't then why bother giving him the opportunity.
like many young women your age who are having children, you already know it is pointless and you will have to just do it by yourself for now and take him to court when you can.