Just had a question, we are trying to get full custody of my stepson (husbands from first marriage)
it was 50/50, but he has been informing us of things that we just don't agree with, that have been going on at his mom's house. He said her boyfriend spanks him really hard with a paddle or a stick, and if he lies he makes him eat hot sauce and he spanks him if he has an accident (which has caused his potty training to regress,) he has said he doesn't have a bed, and there is tape on the floor that he isn't allowed to cross with toys or he gets spanked, etc. etc.
We have given her days and times she can call him and hasn't done so, he hasn't been back over there in 3 weeks, we have filed to have total parental control, my question is do you think we will be granted custody? All of his accidents have stopped, he has his own room here, his own clothes and toys, even a bathroom that he gets to use all to himself.
We have recorded everything, and I am still baffled she hasn't filed or even tried to call to talk to him, I'm just scared they will take him because she is doing something sneeky or making up fake things to get him back. I know I shouldn't bash but she has been a horrible mother to him since day one, "accidentally" leaving him places, she's disappeared before for a whole year and didn't bother to see if he was OK. I have been in his life, here for him for the past 3.5 years, I've always made sure he has had a room and clothes and toys and I love him very much, I don't want to lose him. #stressedmomma
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It's so sad for him to be going through this. I can't imagine how he must feel getting spanked all the time and the hot sauce crap. I hope you guys get full custody of him. Cases like this is when the system fails the child, so I'm going to pray for you guys. You sound like a great step mom, do everything you can and never give up on trying to save your stepson. Good luck!
he's 5, he just says things randomly no body asks him anything, he just tells us.
she doesn't call and refuses to use the phone the only contact we have with her is through FB. This started around Halloween, when she wouldn't let us have him for the holidays when it was our turn, just because it was her week. She has threatened about taking him and home schooling him. We have that all recorded when he said what(which was right when he would come back from her house) and now every time she doesn't call.
and if you notice any red marks or bruising from being spanked take a picture but make sure you can see his face. stand him in front of a mirror if you have to. and call cps immediatly.
the recordings will not stand in a hearing. if the mom has a good lawyer they will say thats hearsay because of the possibility of being coached. if the child is old enough get him to see a counselor, they can testify on his behalf. if you or your husband has any contact with the mom make sure you record any and all phone calls. and save all texts ( if any) from what you have said yall have a really good chance at gettinf full custody and gwtting supervised visitations for the mom.
chances are you guys would get at least temporary full custody, simply on the fact that he doesn't have a bed. But he could also be subpoenaed to speak with the judge depending on his age to have a chance to see what he will say about his mom's house.
Thank you, it's just stressing me out, tomorrow they interview him and they still have yet to go to her house.
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