@mommycheeks, I honestly wasn't trying to come off as mean or rude. I'm just tired of people telling me I shouldn't feed my son a certain way (not saying that's what you said) but thank you for your input. I'll definitely keep it in my mind when my son's born 👌 @elenalee

@mellmell, I clearly stated that I wasn't trying to be rude to you for you to come off like that second you being a first time mom is just that your body has never even produce milk before so you first feed won't even be anything to pump but I never said had anything against it I was just concerned with the way you plan on doing it your baby can suffer from not getting enough to eat .. breastfeeding is not easy pumping is even harder..but I hope it works out for you

@mellmell, well, I hope that works for you. I was just commenting on my experience and what works for my production and what I have learned from my 15 months of successfully nursing my 2 babies. I don't pump milk well, others do. That's great. But I would hate for someone to fail at providing breast milk for their baby because they have a body like mine and didn't know better. I see so many mothers on here that have supply issues and I believe it's because Drs encourage pumping too early and their bodies aren't responding. There is something about the contact with your baby that causes you to make milk. That is how we were built!

@elenalee, There are other ways to keep your milk coming in. There's not just one way to give your baby breast milk.

@nadeah, good luck! Not too many women support what we want to do. Feel free to message me if you'd like. I don't know much being I'm a first time mom but I'll help in any way I can 👌😊

@nicolekayo07, honestly not many mommies on here support what we want to do. But if you ever need to talk feel free to message me. This is my first baby so I'm still learning but I'll help in any way I can 😊

@mommycheeks, I've talked to my doctor, she has no problem with me pumping right away. And I will be damned if anyone's gonna tell me I can't pump then bottle feed. My hospital isn't gonna be the reason I don't feed my son the way I want. They will not give him formula and no one's gonna force me to feed him a certain way. I don't have a problem with moms that want to do skin to skin, that's just not something I'll be doing. Instead of looking at it from a negative point of view (as in my milk won't come in or the pump won't get as much as the baby could) I'm choosing to look at it in a positive way. If I have to pump all day everyday to feed my son, I will. If that doesn't work out I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

@elenalee So true.

not to sound rude but unless you tell the drs you want to give the baby formula from jump they make you do skin to skin at least until you leave and some women milk just don't come in right away you can't just pump right away and they don't recommend you pump until your milk fully comes in and baby helps with that for all that you better off bottle feeding you can pump ur life away but if you don't nurse that baby sorry to say ur milk may not come in right away and that could cause problems for you and baby

Skin to skin and direct feeding also stimulates more milk production and allows your body to tailor your milk to baby's needs better. When you nurse, I tiny bit of baby's saliva siphons into the breast and our bodies respond to that with the correct antibodies, etc. Pumping is not the same as nursing. I would never be able to feed my baby with pumping alone... My body doesn't respond to it, and my milk doesn't drop.

I wanna just pump and bottle feed too

as long as I'm able to, I'm planning to pump and then bottle feed her too! I would love for anyone's help that they may have on being able to do this!

Honestly my first couple days I did skin to skin after feeding... Idk how to explain lol she's in the NICU so my privacy was limited by a shade thingy so she latched on for how ever long because she was preemie and then they would finish her feed through gavage (feeding tube) while I did skin to skin.. It helped with my milk production I literally cried because I had nothing my nurse told me it would work and it did! I woke up literally my last day at the hospital and my milk was in after that I didn't have much skin to skin because my clothes have been an inconvenience I don't have the nice gown with space but I still do breast feed her

@miicat, I agree, I do feel breast milk is alot healthy than formula and I do feel it'll benefit the baby in the long run. I just feel he'll get all those benefits from a bottle as well. Each mama is different. Some are comfortable doing skin to skin and I completely support that. I'm just not one of them @babymay2016

@mellmell Well, you do bond anyway, but there's something about the skin contact that I really don't want to miss. Being able to just do it like that sounds simpler and more convenient too. Then again I wasn't breastfed as a baby for long enough and that was quite traumatic for me. 😕 Since there's highly valuable nutrients in mothers milk til baby is about 2 years old, I feel like it is my job to do the best to provide that to my child.

I don't think it is that you don't get a bonding experience, but there have been studies of why skin to skin is "better". You most definitely can still bond with your baby without doing skin to skin! I'm going to try it but I don't know how long that will last.

@miicat, I'm not too comfortable doing skin to skin. I don't see why some people say (not directing towards you, just people in general) you don't get a bonding experience if you bottle feed. I honestly completely disagree

@twins1987, good to know I'm not alone lol. May I ask why though? If that's too personal feel free to ignore it. I plan on pumping then bottle feeding honestly because I'm not entirely comfortable with trying skin to skin

I really want to breastfeed skin to skin because of the bonding properties.

@mellmell,

I plan to