i dont know what to do anymore i found out my fiance has been messing around on me for 2 years now with 4 different girls(3 of them are my family) it was hard but i forgave him i love him and im having his baby he told me that the only reason why he did it was because our sex was boring but then after we worked it out and talked about it our sex was amazing now since i hit 7 months he stopped having sex with me again and it makes me feel really unattractive and not pretty and I'm worried he's messing around again and i keep feeling like it my fault like im not doing something right and it doesnt help when people keep throwing it in my face it hurts i just dont know what to do😥
Men will only go as far as you let them. If you don't respect yourself to be worth more than leaving him, cheating on you will just be a hobby. Be strong and walk away.
Leave him it will not get better. Having your baby won't change that but one thing I know is you will become a stronger woman once you do and it will make you stronger for your baby. One day you will find someone better who will love you and your child better than he ever could have. I know from experience. It hurts it took me about a year to get over him but I did it and found someone better and he loves my son as if it were is own. I will always have love for my sons dad because he helped give me my beautiful son but that's it. I laugh at how dumb I was to keep going back to him and he kept cheating and lying. In due time you probably will too. Leave him girl. He ain't worth it.
That is not only disrespectful but you shouldn't be tolerating shit like that! I don't care if you're together 40+ years, if a man will openly admit he'd continue cheating on you, and the fact that he's cheated on you several times and with your FAMILY. I'd be cutting every single one of those mf's off. Your daughter doesn't need to grow up watching a man treat you that way, because then that'll be all she knows and would you want your daughter to expect to be treated like that? Of course not! People like that don't change, and if I was you I'd get out of that situation. You're only stressing yourself out by staying. Even if their are positives to staying with him, do they really out weigh the negative?
@brandi1994 ...he said probably? fuck that! hes telling you right there he has NO RESPECT FOR YOU! hes cheating but now hes being trying to be more careful.. you need to go.. i.know leaving 5 years is hard but whas the point if es been dogging and shitting on you the whole time.. basically you was in a relationship for 5 years not him. . its gonna hurt but you need to be out.. that nd chance should of never happened. . and my family members would of gotten this work. 👊
@brandi1994, I was going through similar things except my bd never cheated on me he just left me for a girl in California and we been together 8 years now we expecting a boy and he broke up with me it was hard ass hell trying to let myself understand why and what the hell did I do wrong blaming myself for everything and that's the problem us females love so hard that we will accept anything because you don't wanna lose the love or your life but we gotta be strong and know our worth
no if i find out hes still messing around im done and i told him i find out everything i asked him if i never found out would he still have done it after our daughter was born he said probably and that worry's me i think im going to sit him down tomorrow and talk to him
You guys having a boring sex life is not a valid reason for him to cheat on you. There is NO valid reason at all! If he's not happy then he needs to go. Communication is key. If he didnt respect you enough to bring that intimacy issue up to you then he isn't going to respect you at all.. you went ahead and gave him another chance but what happens if he is still messing around? Will you still stay?
thats what i was worried about it just hurts i been with him for 5 years and i feel like it was all a lie that i was just being used i just hope my daughter that will be here in 3 months never have to feel this pain
i agree with @daedaee93 .. he knows he can get over.. but just because you FORGIVE doesnt mean you have to go back into that situation..
first.. he cheated on you with 4 girls and 3 are your family.. thats number one..and for what ever reason you took him back ... now you're worried hes doing it again? he probably is! the sex isnt your fault but you're being boo boo the fool..
He's cheated on you with your family members?!?! That's messed up but if I was you I'd get out that situation because he's going too keep doing because he knows you will always be there
You deserve so much better! That is not acceptable. You should have left him as soon as you found out the first time, girl because he will continue to do it. If you even suspect your SO of cheating it means you don't need to be together. You should be with someone you can fully trust!