Okay so I'm having a repeat c section in October. my mother wants me to choose her birthday to…
Okay so I'm having a repeat c section in October. my mother wants me to choose her birthday to schedule the c section, 10/3, and my due date is 10/20 but my hospital does c sections at 39 weeks so 10/13. she is upset about that so.instead tries talking my husband into letting her in the OR this time instead of him. absolutely NOT! Also my husband and I agreed that just me and him and the baby will be together the first day to let me rest. in November when I had my daughter, EVERYONE came to see me that night. of course every family has it's drama so I was already in pain and stressed out, none of that helped at all. my mother insists she be there that day. says I'm hurting her feelings on purpose. it's like a repeat of my daughter's birth, my father is a raging alcoholic and a couple days before I had my daughter, he called me drunk and called me a bitch and slut and all sorts of stuff. so I then decided I didn't want him there when she was born. he hasn't seen my daughter at all. my mother says I am trying to do the same thing to her. is it wrong of me to just want my husband and I to spend the first night with our baby by ourselves? I mean this is my second c section in less than a year so I'm pretty sure I am not going to want to have company that soon again. we couldn't even enjoy our complimentary dinner because we had so many people in the room.
Shan·
It's your baby yoy do what you want to do and feel more comfortable with, she should respect your decision as she should know having a baby isn't exactly a walk in the park
Karna Marie·
Мама двоих (младенец)
It's your baby! Girl I wouldn't even tell them the real date lol.
Marie·
В ожидании первенца
not at all. she will get over it, as harsh as it seems, it is seriously you and your significant other's day, nobody elses. yours more so. stand up for yourself and you can put on your birth plan absolutely no visitors in labor recovery and only he to accompany you in the operating room... you won't ever get this day back, it'll be stressful with her saying she's hurt but it'll be even more stressful if you cave and it ends up like your last. she means well but she is not the mom, you are. some grandparents need boundaries firmly set early on. you got this momma!! the nurses are happy to be the "bad guys" if you specify it on your plan or tell them at the hospital, they politely tell family nobody but husband/bf in the operating room and no visitors until at least an hour after. you won't even have to talk to anyone. give yourself the birth you deserve this time :) good luck!!
Katie Nelson·
Мама дочки-младенца
I'll try that. unfortunately she use to work in the hospital and is great friends with just about everyone! bad enough my husband's ex works on the same floor lol. I may just do that though it will make her mad but I'd like this one as stress free as possible
Courtney Warner·
Мама двоих (4 года, 5 лет), ждёт третьего
Sorry mom husband has trump in this situation she can wait in the waiting room until the baby is born make sure you put it in action now only your husband in the birthing room during the c section no exceptions unless you say so. Your operation your baby your say hippa is a serious issue in health care!!! Make sure you tell them your wishes!! Good luck
Gwendolyn Paschal·
В ожидании первенца
I'm having my c-section on Monday and hubby is so relieved that it's just going to be him and I. No drama whatsoever. Don't end up regretting your decision. One of the women on here gave me great advice on this very issue. Stick to your guns!!