Is it weird that I get annoyed at the thought of people helping me when baby is home? People ask me this all the time. My SO and I plan to share night shifts, etc. Am I stubborn? It's our kid so I feel like we can do it on our own👍🏼 lol.
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@mlees, oh ok, I hate that condescending "help" too lol
Yes mam! Same here! Unfortunately my mom lives 15 hours away. Lol @atw2016
only person I really want help from is my mom lol. I'm protective of him already. other than that, I think we got it.
Yes. I just meant when people ask me "So is anyone going to help you with baby? Like its a must or I'll fail" I didn't mean to make it seem like I'm unappreciative lol. @indigenousmommy
@mlees, I like hearing that there are people willing to help. Doesn't mean I'll take the help, but it's a nice thing to hear and say.
Yessss @sev1226 I will gladly drop my baby off for them to watch when they are at that point of crawling, etc. Lol.
yes! @sev1226 once they're a few months old things are way more difficult! their sleep habits change they're awake a lot more and need more attention and if they're eating any solids the diapers become messier too :-/
Yeah I think ppl just say they want to help to get cuddles! lol
@michellevaldez4750, my baby just turned 5 months and my husband went away on business so my mom came and stayed for a week and I needed her way more now than I did when he was a newborn. It was the best week ever lol I wish more people offered help once baby is awake all day because the beginning to your point is a hell of a lot easier!
Oh & yes @michellevaldez4750 she does make a good point. My mom lives 15 hours away so it's all his family and too much of his mom drives me nuts & yeah in the beginning its just simple feed, sleep, poop.
ugh I wouldn't have even answered! and I'm soooo glad my husband is the same way so it is so rare that we have ppl over. my father in law lives with us though :( he was going to stay on our couch for a few weeks....that was 4 years ago!! we finally built him his own bedroom and bathroom in the basement though so I don't have to see him much anymore!
@michellevaldez4750, Me either! One time my MIL stopped by unannounced when I was lounging in my underwear alone at home & I was pretty pissed off lol
yes! I really don't like having house guests. ever!
@sev1226, Right I understand where you're coming from. Help is always nice, but his parents live 5 minutes away and I wouldn't be alone with the baby that long. His MIL would just annoy me too much to where it's not worth it lol. I'm young & have my SO. I got this.
But @sev1226 makes a good point. I guess it would depend on who it is for me. If it was my mom I might not mind cuz I wouldn't feel like I have to entertain her as a house guest but anyone else I really wouldn't like there especially the first week or 2! This is my 4th child so I know what to expect and for me the first few weeks other than being sore from labor aren't really all that hard. baby just sleeps eats and poops so not really much to do anyway! lol
@michellevaldez4750, Right! I will take being sleepy over people annoying me! No thank you. Lol
Yes same with my MIL! She wants to help way too much. For example; she texted my SO 3 times to see if we sent out a thank you card to someone for a baby gift. So I can only imagine what's in store...@littlemissrainesmommy
Wow that is a lot of people! I don't blame you for getting annoyed! Lol @lildarebear
I think I feel the same way. to be honest having ppl in my home is more of a pain in the ass than its worth!
Honestly if you have help, take it and welcome it with open arms because people are great in the beginning but then slowly disappear lol having people to help you cook and things like that helps so much. My mom stayed with us the first week and would watch my son at night so both my husband and I could sleep because once she left it would be totally on us. When my husband went back to work and my mom went home (she lives out of state) and it was just me and baby I longed for that help again and I was very stubborn at first. Plus it's also great to have someone who can give advice because you're clueless... And also you need time to recover! It's so important during the first few weeks PP to relax and heal because if you do too much you can cause major complications.
definitely not... I'm annoyed cause I just know my mother in law is going to try to "help" every chance she gets.. like no. go away.
No i get annoyed too! My Mother In Law, is staying with us for a week after our little one is born, also my mom. And now my brother in laws girlfriend wants to come over. And then one of my fiances aunt and grandma.. Im like STOP!!! This is our baby, we decided to have her we will take care of her.. Dont need hella people coming in and out of our condo willy nilly!
when I went home from the hospital with my first, I was a single mom. I didn't want anyone in that bubble... visitors were fine but I had it covered. I'm the same way this time even though I'm married and will have a baby and a two year old. I'm thinking of not even having visitors until we are home... I'm just a private person though