Ladies, I'm not sure how I should be reacting to my situation. I'm angry and hurt. Let me explain.
Ladies, I'm not sure how I should be reacting to my situation. I'm angry and hurt. Let me explain.
My anatomy scan ultrasound was scheduled MONTHS ago. And everyone around me has known. Including my mother. We talked about a gender reveal but it was never really brought up until 2 days ago. That's when we started talking about both gender reveal and the baby shower. And when I bring it up I kinda get ignored because of books. My mom said she wanted to throw both as this is her first blood grandchild. So I've been waiting on her. Well 2 days ago we talked more into it and she kicked someone out who was told she could help prior. She is trying to dictate who finds out gender. Even tried to convince me that my significant other and I shouldn't find out until the gender reveal. There isn't even a set dat. I find out gender on the 7th , she told me that the 10th is too early, the 16th is my nephews birthday, the 23rd is my cousins birthday. And she don't want weekdays or Sunday's really. So that rules out the whole month of April. She expects me to wait another month to find the gender of my baby while she gossips to everyone about it? Not only that she involved my aunt in both which I don't have a problem with, but she kicked the person who was told she could help out for my aunt. And is waiting now on my aunt hand and foot on dates in "when is good for her" . I'm sorry but I'm about to say screw it. And either do it myself or not have either.
Another thing is my baby shower. She said that it strictly females. Mind you my fiancé and father of my baby doesn't do people. And told her he wasn't doing a diaper party. And she still will not let the event be co Ed. So she's pretty much telling the men in my family fuck you I'm doing this my way. Mind you I have single uncles who want to attend and friends that according to her now are not allowed to come. My grandpa who is excited for this now can't come. And she will not budge off of it.
I'm so irritated and hurt. Everything I say is denied or ignored.
missing300user·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
I personally would not allow her to do it, my mother was saying one minute she was throwing me a shower & then the next minute she wasn't! So when my grandma and aunt asked me if they could throw me one, I told them to go for it! My mom then through a fit saying it's her place not theirs! But it's also my baby, not hers! So it's your decision, you shouldn't be stressed the least bit. These type of things are suppose to be fun! But when you have someone taking it overly seriously, it can easily become no fun! Which is what she is doing. I get it she's excited, but there's a line there she shouldn't cross no matter how much excitement she has. Good luck!
Jessie·
Мама двоих (4 года, 5 лет), ждёт третьего
Your baby, your decision. Cut her off if she can't respect you. Being a grandparent is a privilege not a right
Alexa Marie Rocha·
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@soontobemomof4, thank you. It just upsets me. Don't have a date for the gender reveal yet and people are asking, and I can't tell them a thing because she is waiting for my aunt to give her a ok date. I'm about to just cancel everything and say fuck it. Tell everyone the gender myself and if they want to buy things bring them personally to me :/
missing300user·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
Don't let her ruin it for you, if you wanna do a gender reveal then go for it. I don't know your mom, but if she's anything like mine you must be stern in getting her attention & clearly this means a lot to her. I'd tell her how you want things & make it very clear that you have no problem not having one if she wants to keep acting this way. & it just may straighten her out.
rgaine·
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You need to stand up for yourself!
Tessa·
Do not let her control everything. Stand your ground and tell her it'll be done the way YOU want it to