Okay I need some advice but don't judge me! I'm 17 pregnant I will be 18 in November I been with this guy for two years he's 20 he will be 21 in November. He's always cheated and still does he takes his phone every where but claims he's not doing anything . Feb 28 he proposed I thought he was doing better and being faithful so I said yes ! I moved in with him and one day went through his phone and found out he's been cheating. He's a great guy does everything he can and provides all my needs but it really stresses me out that he's talking to other girls and possibly going to see them while he claims to be at work! I have talked to him about me no liking him talking to other females over and over I thought maybe after I got pregnant he would stop but he's still doing it , he's even bold enough to text them sitting by me even in the middle of the night when he thinks I'm sleeping. On Facebook we are engaged and we're tagging eachother in alot I recently found he has another page? should I ask about this ? All me and my sons stuff is here and I'm due in a few weeks should I pack my stuff and run back home to my parents?
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No judgment for sure and agree that it's all what you're willing to put up with. Just remember that your baby is going to see everything he does so think about wether or not you want your baby to grow up thinking that it's ok to treat a woman like this or be treated like this. It's a cycle that doesn't end if you don't end it. Plus, you're a gorgeous female and will have no trouble finding another man even after the baby 😘 don't let him tell you anything like that even for a second 💪🏽😎 praying for you luv!
I would leave. It would definitely teach him a lesson and if he doesn't learn from it then he truly is not worth it.
It all depends on what you're willing to put up with. What you're willing to risk in your and your baby's health as well. You expressed yourself and he ignored them. So you can now only make a decision about what's yours. Right now, you're putting your yourself at risk. If he is having sex, which you don't know, that a health risk to you and your baby.
You could try one more time and ask that he be upfront and honest about things so that you can make a decision about yourself and your life but in the end you can only control what is yours.
I say confront one more time and if he still ignores you then leave. (Though I don't approve of snooping, the information he's keeping affects you)
No problem.. Like i said ive been there.. I packed my shit and left san diego that night and went back to my dads and never looked back..as much as my ex begged i couldnt see myself being put through that again.
No judgement at all. Love makes us do some crazy things. You are pregnant & I am sure you know that EVERYTHING from the moment you got pregnant til the day you die is about your baby. You are putting way too much energy into a man that does not deserve it. Men mature a heck of a lot slower then women & you would think that having a baby would speed up their maturity but it doesn't!! You can NOT raise a man & darn sure can NOT change him. Focus on what's best for you & your baby!! Go home...
and honestly I'd be careful about the age difference because you aren't 18, and he's over 18 & when you go to the hospital to have the baby & they ask for both birth certificates to fill out the baby's they will see & he can get in trouble with the law , idk how far it can go or such. but even if you're 18 when the baby is born he still can because you aren't legal yet. & you got pregnant before 18, they say the age of consent is 16 but that's for anyone under 18 as well. it happened to my sister. she had a baby at 17 with a 19 year old and he to this day has to register as a sex offender and he had to pay a bunch of fines and such. I don't wanna scare you but I just wanna let you know , cuz it's happened to my sister.
honestly, I would leave. it's not worth it. why be with someone you don't know wants to be with you. he doesn't seem to be faithful. do what's best for you and your baby, don't worry about him. worry about your baby. he has no respect for you since he's doing that and lying. he proposed and he's still doing that? I'd leave. if you plan on marrying him, do you really wanna deal with a cheating man your whole life? it's not worth it. find someone who values you, love you , respects you and will care for you and the baby. while only entertaining you and you only. your baby and yourself should be first on his list.
thank you mommies for your advice @ftmommieoftwiinz @blessing2016 @kimberlysbaby
@damandakillion, NOOOOOOOOOO we were broken up the he begged to come see me then we ended up making up having sex I found out I was pregnant two months later didn't think he was cheating until I found out in the beginning of this month (March)
Oh no. You didn't try to get pregnant for him to stop, did you?
Im sorry your going through that baby girl. My suggestion is leave. Obviously he doesnt respect you enough to leave his old habits especially since you are the mother of his unborn child. And if he comes running back i wouldnt even give him a chance yo even do so..if he wants to be in your childs liffe let him..but far as relationships go..it seems as if he cant be faithful so dont fall for the begging and pleading when he does.. Some men dont know how good they have it when the one that holds them down leaves and then they can find someone like you to put up with their shit.. Believe me ive been there..i hope my advice helps in some way..keep your head up..
I would definitely confront him about it! He shouldn't be talking to any other woman. You're carrying his child and he put a ring on your finger, don't let him talk to other woman and if you don't say anything he'll think it's okay. If he doesn't stop I would definitely leave him. You don't deserve that
@kaidensmommie7, oh god. The way the passage read gave me that impression. Personally, I would deal with the BS. It's not worth it. You can't be a great mom until you make yourself happy. :) Get at it girl.