so update: On March 11th I went through 15 hours of extremely intense active labor and on and off hours of pushing before anyone listened to me about my son being too large for my body. After about 4 hours of being fully dilated his head was still -1 and wasn't coming down any more. At that point I started mentioning him most likely being too large for my body and needing a c section. no one would listen to me so after 10 more hours 2 spinal injections and a bloaced epidural (all of which faded out before 1 hour of having them), vaginal swelling from failed pushing, vomiting 7 times (8total after surgery) they tried to push pitocin on me and I refused and said I needed a x section and finally about 45 minutes later I was being prepend for one. when they delivered my son the first words out of their mouth were oh my god he is a big boy ( my so and I are both small and I didn't have gd) so I responded with I told you! his birth weight was 9 lbs. 13.7 Oz and he was 20 in. long. so after I got to see him they took him and my so to the nursery and they started giving me drug after drug to stop my bleeding. I lost 1000 ccs of blood which is borderline hemoraging. I have been recovering somewhat well and I've been home since yesterday. Killian is doing great he has lost some weight but is breastfeeding amazingly! And I am so happy he is finally here despite the struggle it took to get him.