My dad is tryin to find a way to keep my SO off the birth certificate and have someone come in and talk to me about adoption... Those messages are between my dad and aunt
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aaaand last thing, like a previous poster said just because he is on the birth certificate doesn't not mean he will have custody, that's ridiculous. He does have certain rights being on the birth certificate but not "custody"
Oh and my bf's mother told me if I don't give the baby up he will have a fucked up life and that I won't be able to take care of him and all that. Also said she would put flyers up in her office for someone to adopt him. FLYERS. Like a fuckin animal. Needless to say she is out of our lives now.
OMG I'm so sorry girl this is ridiculous. I'm 23 so a bit older than you and my boyfriends mother told me to give my baby up without telling the father (her son) and that he "would find out when the baby is born" smh just evil. Fucking evil. If you want to keep your baby KEEP HER. you do you. I don't care if you're 17 or 35, you probably already know that a baby is he biggest responsibility you will ever have but if you are willing to go for it then DO IT. and when you have her tell the hospital staff who you don't want in the room, they will keep a list and not let those people in. Good luck!!
That's so sad. :/ it's your choice not your fathers. I'm a young mom too. I just turned 18. I'm here if you need to talk about anything! Good luck! Remember it's all about you and the baby and what's best for you both.
It's not a lot ir well depending on state I guess my now husband did the birth certificate and paternity paper all at the hospital didn't take long.
Wth that's crazy! I'm sorry you're dealing with this, 😒
Being on the birth certificate doesn't equal custody. If you aren't married he has to declare paternity and sign forms to even be allowed on it. There is a lot to it.
@hermommy, I honestly think that it's funny that he's even going to try
@hermommy, there's no way in hell im giving up my baby girl just cause thats what my dad wants. Im definitely going to be talking to the nurses
@rileysmommy2016 good plan girl, make sure they know under no circumstances should any adoption agency be allowed near your room. Another option would be private list yourself then they won't know where you are or that your there, long enough for oh to sign the birthcertificate and your so
@rileysmommy2016, oh my goodness that's crap. its your decision and your baby just cause you are 17 doesn't mean they can control what do with a human you made in my belief. My little girl is being adopted privet so no agency to bully me if i change my mind. You decide what you want for that baby and block out others opinions you got this!
oh! okay, I am tracking now, my apologies.
@mamamj, I do want him on the certificate its my dad that doesn't
As long as he is present while you're at the hospital to sign the paperwork, he will be on it and no one has a say in that except the two of you. And if he does have someone try to talk you about adoption, just tell them to leave. They have to respect your wishes!
@hermommy, im letting the nurses know that I don't want anyone in the room without asking me first if it's okay for them to come in
I wasn't saying you didn't know who was the father, but in some states, you can put unknown for the father if you don't want him on the certificate.
@mamamj, I know who the father is my dad just doesn't want him to have custody
@rileysmommy2016 he has no day at all, stick to your guns an keep your daughter if that is what you want, let him know that he is crossing a line and just make sure whoever comes to talk to you knows that is not YOUR plan and shut them down immediately
@caisner, oh im gonna make sure they aren't aloud in the room if they show up
I think you can put unknown on the birth certificate....?
@taylorrleee1, I do want him on the birth certificate
@hermommy, he thinks just cause im 17 he has a say when he doesn't
@losmartinez, I do want my baby my dad is gonna try and have someone come in and try to convince me to give her up for adoption
Are u planning on keeping the baby ? and when I had some one come to me from adoption place to talk to me about adoption they bullied me and trying every way to convince me to do and wouldn't leave me alone what so ever even after I told them my answer they even had the nerve to come to the hospital with a car seat and saying u sure u don't want to give u r child up for adoption etc and once again trying any tactic they could to try and get me to give them my baby girl what finally did it was me screaming for the nurse while holding my baby and screaming help they are trying to take my baby and trying to force me to give her up for adoption. they left In a hurry and never bothered me again I was a single mom but I knew I could do it with services to help get me steady etc I was able to raise my daughter who is now 9
I'm confused. you do or you don't want him on the birth certificate? if you don't mind me asking..
your dad is wrong, that should be your choice and your choice only
hon I had my son at 17 and has the happiest little boy out there. you can do it, don't listen to anyone
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