*Question!* (Sorry it's so long, I wanted to be somewhat thorough!)So, I'd really like you mama's opinions on something that I'm struggling on deciding with. To put this out there first I am Indeed a teen mom I'm still and school, graduating early and I plan to work full time this year since I'm going to be schooling online. Anyway, back in July/August when I found out I was pregnant my mum's boyfriend flipped out at me saying he was gonna have to use his money for everything, I needed him and my mum to take my baby to the doctor get him milk and buy everything because at the time I wouldn't be capable of doing so. She just sat there allowing him yo scream at me that I need to kill my baby because he wasn't human yet and he didn't wanna spend all his money. So I repeatedly told the both of them that I did not need them or their help that I'd find a way (which I would have because I'm a smart girl plus my baby's father and family IS here along with my family so the baby would be covered whether I was able to work things out or not.) But long story short they're both out without a job, no transportation and he goes out breaking into people's cars and stuff to profit off of what he finds and this ENTIRE pregnancy neither one of them has had to buy Malakai anything, never had to take him to the doctor (my mum actually got pissed off because as a minor who is a mother I legally don't need her to come with me pretty much anywhere anymore tbh.) nor have I ever asked them to buy him anything. I've bought all his stuff, his dad, his dad's mom/family, and gifts were given at the babyshower. So all that junk he was screaming in my face turned out to backfire on him and her majorly. Now that the baby is coming in a few days he wants to be a big part of his life. He tells everyone his grandson is coming soon, they're gonna have matching clothes, he's gonna give him his first lemon, they're always gonna be together, etc etc..But honestly...this all seems fake to me. Finally, my question is, Would you let him be involved with the baby? Knowing that he was the FIRST one screaming to kill him but now he's all over him. Would you be okay with this? I know for a fact he's not allowed to go anywhere unsupervised with him simply because over the months he's relapsed Into using heroin and crack again so there's no way I'd be cool with that. But am I wrong for not wanting him to even touch my baby? Honest opinions would you let him be around or no?
honestly I would have mm moved out and no I wouldn't let by my baby his just the boyfriend his not your dad and he has a serious drug problem you can not have around an infant
@miraclebaby2016 @audranb87 @snowbaby313 @chewy1228 Thank you ladies for responding. Still deciding since it'll be KIND OF hard to keep them away from each other since sadly he lives here. But I think I'm gonna go with my first mind and keep him away!
your his mother. YOU do what YOU feel is best for your baby. if he's into drugs like that I would say HE'LL NO.
My husband's.mother is very much like this. She's screamed at me and degraded me more times then I can count. For that reason alone she will not have contact with my son. Toxic people have no place in my home with my children.
I wouldn't even let him touch the baby, due to the fact that those serious drugs, once consumed, are excreted through your skin with sweat! That could make your baby deathly ill!
.my husbands mother is the same way and we have told her she needs to clean up her act before she is allowed to see our child.
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