I never dilated not even to 1cm. Ended up with a c section. I went through induction and 12 hours of active labor and then his hear rate went down and I still wasn't dilated. You're not a failure.. Sometimes it just happens that way what matters is you brought life into the world safely 💙

@xbbycolletto, you and me both. I feel like shit honestly. I can't even give them a meaningful congrats because I get overridden with jealousy and just end up doing something else.

thats why I don't get on fb anymore all that much. all my friends keep having their babies that are due the same day if not a few days before me and I'm just like.. "fuck, dude. really. am I gonna be the last one to go!? "

@xbbycolletto, it does hit hard! It hurts because they will post shit on Facebook like "Just had my baby before my due date" and I'm like, "Well...here I am. Another day, no baby." I've started thinking this baby doesn't exist and that I'm just dreaming.

but you're far from a failure. and it hurts my heart to see you say this. you're a strong woman for making it THIS far. don't forget that at all. it's still gonna all be worth it once your little man is in your arms. I like to tell my friends that baby loves you so much they didn't wanna leave hearing your heart and being that close to you. but at some point. it gets uncomfortable and emotionally unsettling. and that's something I can totally get.

yeah that's really got to suck, hun :( I hate it when people say "the baby isn't just ready" sometimes it's not always the baby. I'm having to be talked to next week at my appointment about inducing bc I'm not dialaiting but having consistency in contactions. and they cant induce me until I'm 39 weeks. I'm being told by the looks of things if I have no cervical changes by the end of 38 weeks to look for being induced or even a c section. I've been told to have sex anymore much as I can stand so my cervix can open up. and it's not budging one bit and being on this kind of bedrest, it's killing me. bc I'm in so much pain and there's absolutely nothing that can be done until I'm 39 weeks. but the cervix changing in hours thing is a joke to me. I've had so many friends this year who had babies whose cervix would be stuck at a certain cm and wouldn't change for HOURS. I feel like people should learn to just speak for themselves on that. it's absolutely discouraging to get your hopes up like that, for begin with. and I can't imagine how you must be feeling at this point! especially seeing women who are due with you or after you having their babies. that's gotta hit hard.

@nebanks1226, thank you. I'm just sick and tired of this. Even my c section didn't go past 40 weeks. I'm miserable and discouraged and don't even want a VBAC anymore.

@xbbycolletto, and when people say, "He's just not ready" or "Your cervix can change in just hours", I'm just like then why hasn't it? Why is it still at a 1.5 and why won't it change and why isn't he coming out.

@xbbycolletto, I have an induction scheduled for next Thursday when I'm exactly 42 weeks. I can't stand it when people who had due dates after mine are popping out babies and here I am...stuck big and pregnant. It's making me depressed. I just want to crawl in bed and lay there until my induction date. I'm starting to think that I don't even want a VBAC anymore because it's just been a miserable process.

I'm sorry you feel that way girl and I'm sorry that's happening..but you are far from a failure...you made a beautiful baby and you are so strong..hang in there girl..I'll be praying for you

my ob is feeling like that's gonna happen to me. I'm not 41 weeks like you are. but being 37 weeks and being told I'm not dialaiting one bit and that my cervix is still high and tight discourages me a bit. meanwhile I see girls around my gestion week already 2 and 3 cm dilated and fully effaced. my son is dropped in the correct position but my ob says he doesn't understand why I'm not dialaiting any bc of how low he is. but hang in there. like I said I'm not as far along as you are and I'm sure you're ready for baby to come out. have they talked to you about inducing yet? or is that something you're not wanting?