Ok sorry if this is insanely long but the father of my girls really got to me the other day and I just had to vent…

Ok sorry if this is insanely long but the father of my girls really got to me the other day and I just had to vent somewhere.. The situation is my oldest is almost 3 her father has never been there for her. He will come into her life and act like father of the year for a week then disappear for months. She had 2 SEIZURES and he didn't call or ask how she was or visit her in the hospital.

You are not a parent. I have been their mother and father for years. You don't know what it means to be a parent! I have gone hungry so they could eat, I have sold MY possessions so I could buy them what they needed. Diapers, wipes formula and food. You are Not their “daddy”. You put on a show for your family and girlfriend. You haven't held either of them while they were so sick they couldn't keep anything down. You haven't had sleepless nights because you were in the hospital cradling her while she had tests done. You haven't kissed them on their foreheads while their asleep so they don't have nightmares. You don't know what it takes to be a dad. Any idiot can father a child, but a real MAN protects his kids and cares for them. If I asked you what their favorite breakfast was you would have no clue or say it's going to change so it doesn't matter. A real dad would know it does matter. You haven't been up all night with a screaming kid not knowing what's wrong or what to do. You sleep sound at night not knowing a damn thing about them. So no, you are not their daddy. You are simply their father. They have a daddy. One who knows and cares about them. One who missed work to take Amelia to the doctor because we were worried something was wrong. One who stayed up all night with Brooke in the hospital and held her hand while she got a CAT scan. He is their Daddy. Not you.  You never will be.