I feel like since I forget I'm pregnant all the time and I hate being pregnant that I'm gonna hate…

You can always give your baby to a loving home, but there's good and bad that comes with that too.

it is going to hit you soon enough . when I got pregnant the first thing that popped in my mind was abortion . I was still drinking and smoking because I felt like since I didn't care about the baby why stop . but when I had my ultrasound when I found out what I was having and I heard his heart beat it became real to me . I stopped drinking and smoking and out of nowhere I became obsessed with him .... so basically it's gonna hit you when you least expect it and if it doesn't happen by the time you see your babies face then I would just say give it up that way you can go on with your life

I highly doubt you will hate your baby when it gets here. I was 18 when I had my son. It is possible. As a mother you will have to make lots of sacrifices, but it is worth it. You can still treat yourself, too. But just remember, you will have to make sure your baby is taken care of first in the future.

It's like I like the fact about having it one day but it's not hitting me I really don't want to give it away but what if I'm not a good parent what if if I make the kid a shitty person idk how to raise a kid because I'm still learning myself @jozell01 @dja

@kee89, I understand that but my family makes me feel bad because I don't want to buy stuff yet like I'm only 10 weeks I don't want to buy nuteral colors I want to buy things when I know what I'm having and not before like I just want to do something for me once

I think about the same thing every single day . I even had a few breakdowns when my son would cry and I would cry right with him . I promise you having a baby is a great thing but if your fully ready .... plus its not good to buy baby stuff until your at least 6-7 months so you don't jinx yourself lol . you will be OK I promise you that . I have faith on you just don't let anyone try to make you seem like your doing a bad job because you want to treat yourself

Yeah. Don't worry about them. You're only 10 weeks. You have plenty of time to buy things for the baby. I am 11 weeks and 3 days. I have not bought a thing. I want to know the gender first. Yes you should start saving money for the baby. But you can still do and buy things for yourself.

It's actually a GOOD idea to start buying stuff like diapers, wipes, bottles. I think you said you're 19? Im 18 and I'm still learning myself as well. I found out at 7w, the NEXT day my mother had me in SO MANY programs and appointments already. Those programs help mothers as well, they give you support, clothes, strollers, cribs. Everything and anything you need. And I thought that too, like "mom, why so early?" But it was the best thing she did for me and my baby. I really just think you should get an ultrasound to see your baby, so you can see what you were blessed with. It can be hard because you're so young but your baby didn't ASK to be growing inside of you. I just hope you make the best discussion for yourself. And your family is just trying to help. Accept it, and be strong. ❤️

I agree with you as well, @dja. Those programs are very helpful. And yeah diapers wipes and bottles are neutral anyway. That would be a start.

When I first found out it honestly didn't hit me I was actually having a baby til almost the end I HATED being pregnant I think more than anyone cause I was in bed rest so I couldn't work or even leave my house and I didn't buy anything til the last week or two weeks before I gave birth. I though about abortion to the whole time and everyone was mad at me saying I was going to regret it and I just though I wasn't going to be a good mom I never took care of kids since I'm the only child. And even when I was giving birth the first thing out my mouth when she came out was why is her head weird 😒 I was just over the whole thing honestly. But a month later I'm so in love with my baby girl she's always with me and I didn't know how to do anything at all I asked the nurses how to even change a pamper but trust me it's instinct your going to know your baby better than anyone else. I just turned 20 December. I though my whole life was over but being a mommy just means it's beginning ☺️ @amonakiej

that's completely normal so please don't feel bad! I felt the same way for both of my pregnancies. But it's a whole different story when they get here. it's the best feeling ever... trust me!

I was like you, all 9 months I hated every part of it, for most of my pregnancy my baby I would call him and it or thing knowing what I was having. I had spoken to my ob about seeing a therapist because I felt like I would be a horrible mother and she offered her advice to me, and advice to get a journal and just write every thing i felt, carry it around and just wrote, my baby is 4 months now and I will tell you. He is my life. He is everything, I had such a hard time because this wasn't the way I planed it but it happened and I was dealing with it, and I got the best tiny human in return

It's a difficult transition, I feel like at 20 I was too young to be a mother and I still feel that way, I would cry most nights, and my then boyfriend now husband would just hold me and just try to help but there wasn't much to do, it was and it is still a difficult change of pace but I am a mother, and I stepped up and it will seem difficult and hard at times but always remember you have people in your corner