go to a lawyer. you only need her name and they will find her and give her the court date

How are you suppose to take her to court without any contact information? @kelseys

take her to court. because if its already in writing from the courts what the agreement for visitation between them is then she has to do it and can get in trouble if she doesn't do it.

@kelseys, We have NO contact with the kids, she's changed get phone number and moved. As far as the presents, I'm sure the kids have no idea.

I definitely agree ^^ Do a bank account for the kids and when you guys go to court tell them that's what you guys did because she returned the stuff you guys got. when you do talk to the kids record them saying that's what she did or save her texts. and hopefully you still have the proof of how much you spent on the kids items that she returned for herself.

smdh!! that's terrible. she's a jealous gold digger sounds like to me. bs

They are, I claim every single one as my kiddos! Funny thing is, she left him and filed for divorce because he no longer had the military pay shortly after he came back home. @justmarriedhavingaboy

I would do the bank deposits and send them a card with and a gift. also tell them that he's started bank accounts for them that way they don't feel daddy don't care but will take control back from her. I'm so sorry I cant help more. I will think and if I have any more ideas besides bringing her back to court I will let you know. may God be with all of you and her also. she needs God in her life for real. idk what else to say... but if you wana talk more or vent more etc I'm here just message me. I'm sorry your family is going thru this.

I can understand why shed feel the way she does but she needs to grow the fuck up honestly. his love for those kids have nothing to do with him leaving it was his happiness and if you make him happy great. you still won't replace his other children. that's a while different kind of love. and having another child can never replace the love he had for the first one. that's like you thinking he's guna love the new one more than talks first. simply crazy. boy she got some issues and if money's most important he needs to get those kids away quick as possible! she should be greatful even having a bd that still wants to be there many men walk away! she got lucky! and bitching about payments? oh boy again some ladies will never see a dime and don't shed a tear. they proud mamas. sounds as if y'all hands r full as can be!

@justmarriedhavingaboy, he also is required to pay her $350 s month in child support, which we're waiting to get a phone call of her complaining cause she's so use to getting it in $88 increments weekly. He changed jobs and pay periods changed, so she'll get bi-monthly vs weekly.

His oldest are 7,5,4. Mine are 6,4, 11 mths, and arrive at anytime.

I agree. for future though id set up bank accounts also instead of giving them things other then sending a card. then one day they will enjoy what their father has given them....how old are they? not my business but what mother could ever do that to their child is beyond me! its not about her it's about them and every good mother puts her child first before anything ESPECIALLY HERSELF!! Makes me so mad!! sorry had to say it....

@kelseys, thanks. . I'm partially to blame for their Christmas, I chose everything knowing they'd love it. I think I'm the one more hurt by her actions since they were a tactic to get at him about. We haven't got to see the kids since October last year. :/ She's jealous that we have an 11 mth old and one on the way, she talks about how he used me to replace her and the kids... yet all she ever wants him for is money. :/

not wrong to feel that way. if your husband already knows how she is and what she did, then why spend so much on something they either won't get or she will use the money from it on herself. spend money on the ones that you have because you know they will have it.