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I'm wondering how to start asking my dad for my social security money. My mom passed away when I was 8 from ovarian…

I'm wondering how to start asking my dad for my social security money. My mom passed away when I was 8 from ovarian cancer. So ever since then, every month my younger brother and I each receive a check from the state for 1,020 dollars. Combined that's over an extra 2,000 dollars loses a month on top of my dad paycheck not to mention I have a medical card so my health care is free. I feel like he's not using the money for things for me. Would it be unfair of me to ask him to deposit at least 500 dollars per month of the check into my savings account?

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caitlynmiller

CaitlynМама дочки (2 года), беременна (15 нед.)

That money is 100% yours. It's considered fraud if it doesn't go to you. Same thing happened with my mom. They asked me if I wanted to press charges and have her sent to jail. I was like no!?

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rgaine

rgaineВ ожидании первенца

Definitely worth asking if he's be open to it if he's not providing food, shelter, clothing, transportation, phones, entertainment, etc. for you already.

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meta.momma

Celeste В ожидании первенца

it doesn't stop until you're out of high school @rachelhoffmans

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meta.momma

Celeste В ожидании первенца

@rachelhoffmans, Contact the social security office. When you turn. 18 that money is supposed to come to you. I'd he's not spending that money at home then they can take it and give it to you. I had to do that with my mom and I got mine. on the other hand of he is you'll have to wait until the state transfers it over at 18

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mariahje

Mariah.В ожидании первенца

I understand trust me. I felt the same way. but sometimes you just dont get to be in control of what happens when it comes to legal matters and money. unfortunately. It definitely doesnt hurt to ask but I just wanted to let you know to be prepared if it doesnt go well. its not worth the fight.

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rachelhoffmans

RachelВ ожидании первенца

He gives me money when I ask that's not so much the problem. But instead of every time I need ten bucks I feel like it'd be easier to just set aside an amount to transfer and then I'll have to do what I can with that amount, ya know? I have had a job too since I was 16 but I'm about 36 weeks pregnant so I'm not working anymore. Self sufficiency is great but when my dad makes 5 grand a month already I don't think he needs a whole extra 2,000. They do live in a nice house and I know that can't be cheap. But I don't live there with them so it's just not fair that my money is being used for THEIR things. It sounds selfish but I'm getting ready to be a mom and I need money too. Especially because I'm so young. @mariahje

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mariahje

Mariah.В ожидании первенца

same thing happened to me growing up. i fought with my mom for 4 years trying to get even 20 dollars out of her for anything. never happened.. i got a job at 15 & never stopped working since then and being self sufficient feels better than having her give me the money. just saying, it might not go well to ask. and if it doesnt dont worry. youll be alright.

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pixiestix

KaraМама сына (5 лет)

well dont stress yourself too much. just talk to him and find out. if hes not struggling for money then i dont think he would have a problem with giving you a bigger chunk of your money. :)

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missing98user

missing98userМама сына-младенца

Oh

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rachelhoffmans

RachelВ ожидании первенца

He's not caring for me, I don't live with him. @junesmommy15

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rachelhoffmans

RachelВ ожидании первенца

@msvanessa27, it's called "survivors benefits" & I think it stops coming when I turn 18 since its there to replace my moms income. But my dad is also remarried and they are not struggling money wise at all. @pixiestix I don't want to do anything legal to him. He really is a great guy he just doesn't understand fully what I'm going through. He does give me money frequently but not as much as he should especially with the amount on that check. Idk I'm just really starting to stress about money.

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missing98user

missing98userМама сына-младенца

Not until you're 18. He's still caring for you.

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pixiestix

KaraМама сына (5 лет)

then you should definitely ask if he will do that for you. its legally your money, but unfortunately until you're 18 if he wont, i dont know if theres anything you can legally do to get it straight to you. sorry if that makes no sense, im still half asleep. lol

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msvanessa27

VanessaМама сына (6 лет), беременна (26 нед.)

When do u make 18?that check will be put in ur name when u reach18 ...its supposed to i was receiving mine at 18 in my name

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rachelhoffmans

RachelВ ожидании первенца

I'm 17 and yes it's supposed to go to me. It's for necessities for me. Since I have no health bills I wanted to start putting it in savings so I'm able to afford things like formula and toys for my baby.. @msvanessa27 @pixiestix

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leeyasmommy

Tai ThaliaВ ожидании первенца

No. not at all

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pixiestix

KaraМама сына (5 лет)

no, if its supposed to go to you then its not unfair to ask at all.

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msvanessa27

VanessaМама сына (6 лет), беременна (26 нед.)

How old r u?

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