this is a little tmi and kinda a personal question but did or are any of you experience pain while having sex when u were pregnant because when I try to have sex with my husband its almost unbearable and I can't and I get emotional because I feel as if I'm failing as a wife any suggestions on what I can do so I can bear it and not be uncomfortable
@firsttimemama553, get some lube the water based one and that might help I was the same way and still am and we have to use lube to make it more comfortable for me and it works for me
I have the same problem. It sucks feeling that you are failing. But baby comes first and if he loves you he will understand. Like other ladies said, it's temporary.
Yep very common. It's actually one of the first things I realized that made me think I was pregnant. Feels like Air is being pushed back on him.
@firsttimemama553, I understand, I always feel like I'm failing about something. Personally, I have to be really turned on and "lubricated" to be able to enjoy sex without even being pregnant, and it was impossible for me to get turned on during pregnancy which resulted in really uncomfortable sex. My boyfriend luckily is very understanding. I will say though, sex after birth is amazing. Or at least for me it is. I'm 6 weeks postpartum and either I feel a lot tighter or he feels a lot bigger and it just feels great in general. And my sex drive skyrocketed after I gave birth. So he will get his lovins eventually. 😂
I just now at 23 weeks started to have sex that didn't hurt. I hated it so much even the thought made me sick lol but this week we were able to have sex twice without the pain. I came to the conclusion that unfortunately he's gonna have to do all the work for it not to hurt lol.
It's extremely uncomfortable for me. Just explain it to your husband, and try to work together. Being horny comes in spurts, so hubs gets it when he can. He doesn't like that we don't do it as much, but I think it finally hit home to him the one night I cried during and explained it fully. It's hard, but remind him pregnancy is only temporary :)
I hate having sex now. it's just not enjoyable. especially when I have to pee all the time. I usually get pain and crampy after.
I hated sex my first pregnancy! was unbearable 98% of the time! my second one it's not so bad though thank goodness
@m.bullock, I just feel bad sometimes because I am his wife and I feel like I'm failing
I'm going through the same && he actually expressed to me that we never get to do anything because I'm always hurting . I just had to explain to him
I hate sex now that I'm pregnant also. It's uncomfortable and I have no sex drive whatever. I'm glad to see that I too am not the only one feeling this way!