I'm having the hardest time trying to decide if I want to continue with my pregnancy. I'm currently…

Just because a man walk out of your life shouldn't make you weak love. A baby isn't gonna make a man stay but one can only hope. I'm not a single mother but I do know that you will have my support no matter how hard it will be. I know being a single mother is difficult but it don't make you a bad person. It shouldn't. It should make you stronger and motivate you to do better for your kids. Don't give up a child because of that jerk and because it's hard. Who ever said it was gonna be easy? No one not even God. If you want to adoption may be a better choice for you so you won't go through worse emotional pain then with abortion. Think about it some more mama ok? It's gonna be ok :) @number321

thanks for your support. I just feel like an idiot. all 3 of my kids have different dads, I've never been married and I'm only 29. I'm immediately judged and get all kinds of side eye from family for not doing things the "right way" @deafmama16 I was just thinking it's still early enough to have the surgical procedure and go back to my old life. adoption won't be an option. I'll can't go through a whole pregnancy and labor just to give the baby away ...nah

yes but putting a baby up for adoption would still make pregnancy and labor worth it in the end because you would make a family very happy...but regardless I wish you the best :) just think about your options.

@number321, whatever helps you sleep well at night, do that. None of your decisions are easy but we are here to support you and hope you and your family are doing okay. In the end the decision is yours and i know its a hard one to make

Thank you

@ftm2be, sorry you're so against it

@ftm2be, you're entitled to your OWN opinion, but don't try to sit there & make another mother who is struggling feel terrible just for asking about something. Calling her crazy, saying she shouldn't've opened her legs, not only is that rude but it's also a very immature way to express your opinion.

poor precious little angel! =/ these are hard decisions.. apparently you have yet to learn your lesson.. but i will not judge. do what you think is best. you can still take the abortion pill up to nine weeks.. better hurry up. .

@lilfree16 yes this decision is very hard. I've already made the appointment. got all the way there and didn't go inside

well baby girl.. you don't have that much longer.. make sure you go to a reputable place. id go on youtube and research the procedure.. so you'll have some kind of idea

thanks @madi-girlsmama for standing up for me I thought that comment was harsh but I didn't want to be rude right back .

@number321, I do believe in people having a choice when it comes to pregnancy. Sure men will get a mean look or a ride comment about leaving a pregnant woman, but a woman who terminates a pregnancy gets holy hellfire for it. It's not right. If you feel in your heart that that is the best thin for you & your family with your current situation, then I wouldn't let anyone stop you. Yes, you'll probably feel regret, guilt, & a lot of other emotions after, but those feelings will fade with time & you will always remember this little one. Don't beat yourself up. Adoption can be an option, I was adopted & so was my boyfriend. However families for adoption aren't always the best, my boyfriend was abused by his adopted family, but my family that adopted me is absolutely amazing & I wouldn't want it any other way. I couldn't've asked for a better family. I found my biological parents, & while I choose not to talk to my bio mom, having my bio dad around just gives my daughter so many more people to love her. Now she not only has my entire (HUGE) adopted family, but she has his biological grandpas side of the family & his wife's side. Message me if you'd like to talk more 😊

Sorry for the typos, my phone is really glitchy.

OK I will

Wow all the negativity on abortion is making me sick I've had one and for good reasons no I will not get hellfire for it and no I'm not a bad person it was the responsible decision to make I'm thinking of deleting this app with all the negativity on here you women who are saying this horrible things to one another make me sick if she is wanting to make this decision based on financial reasons and reasons that the father won't be around to make things easier for her other children then that's her decision it's her body and I'm very sure you haven't been put in her shoes so you are in no room to judge 😤😤😤😤

@number321, I understand and baby girl you're no idiot :) if you believe it's best than go. Family aren't family anymore these days so no matter what you're a great mom ok? My mother had four kids by different men's and she was frowned upon at first wanted to abort my oldest brother but she didn't she had him and us. Even the devil was in her way a lot for years she found God and God got her out of her pain. My mother is the strongest single mother I've ever seen it was hard but she proved the family she could do it. Now she happily married with a man that God send her and he helped build her back up. :) if you choose to abort and you later regret it I'm sorry but I'm here for you ok? One thing I know is that a child will come back to you again in the future when everything is right to you in life. You will be happy this time instead of sad and broken. Let people talk. The only person who can really judge you is God.

well sorry...

I'm against abortion but I know how hard being a single mom is. I'm 21, two kids. Two fathers. My sons dad was abusibe and isn't in his life. My daughters dad stepped up and then we had her and we are still together. It's not easy. I think you should really research. Really think about it as this choice will follow you forever no matter what route you decide to take. I personally would never be able to live thinking I killed my child. Adoption is also hard to go through the long pregnancy & labor just to give the baby away but you could also do open adoption where you could still be involved in the child's life. Or you can try your hardest to keep the baby and provide for it despite being a single mother. It's hard but you need to be 100% sure of your final choice so you don't in the future regret your choice. 💜much love!

Also if you already made an appointment but couldn't bring yourself to go in and do it. Then I think your heart has already made its decision.

@ciaramarie, we'll financially I will be OK I've been with my job for 7 years and I'm also in school working on my bachelor in education. my oldest daughter's father and family is awesome they help alot. it's just my son's side of the family that does nothing so I was having flash backs of how hard it was with him when he was a baby to be alone again now it will be an infant and a busy busy 2 year old. ..wondering how to maintain and love all 3

I completely understand. It's a tough decision.

I'm happy to be able to put my concerns down and get instant feedback. thank you ladies. I was freaking out this morning when I made the post tossing and turning but now that I read back all the comments and see my concerns from a different prospective. ..things are not as bad as I thought

soo you're going to be okay? =)

yes