I'm confused??? Me and my babydaddy don't talk at all. Like he doesn't call me or anything or ask…

I wouldn't....why be there if your not even there when the baby isn't even here? that's dumb...sorry girl.

Same here .. I would tell mine the same thing @theinkedbarbie & @expecting_angel26

no. I made that mistake for years ago. and after that he was out of the picture for four years.... but has parental rights. now we have to go thru a long process of changing my son's last name. and signing his rights over to my husband.

I feel like if he's not involved in the pregnancy or even checking on you, then no

ask him for what purpose? its terrible he has not done anything for you and baby. I f i were you I think I will let him but needs to know why till labor and not man up now. later on in future he will use it as an excuse you didnt allow him to make his irresponsible self feel better

Hell nah. My baby daddy hasn't been around and I guarantee you he's gonna try to be there, but I will say no. My boyfriend who has been there every day and is going to classes with me and is going to raise my son will be allowed, but not the guy who contributed to making a baby and then decided not to be around for any of it. Fuck that guy

honestly my mom exiled my dad except for the birth and he didn't stay in my life but that's an experience he will never get again. maybe it will make him change his mind..

no

Id Say he can be there if he wants. But it's certainly not your job to make Sure that he is there. So if the time comes and he's not around like he is now then that's on him.

However if it is the case that you find or are with a good man that is and wants to be there for you and another mans child then no I wouldn't let him either.

I would let him if it was me. For a lot of men it doesn't become real until labor/when the baby comes, you can read married/partnered women's posts here where the man is just not engaged at all