I had my first kid by a guy I was with for a year but he was more of a kid than me...I don't blame him for getting pregnant I don't call him an ass hole I dont see it as being his fault or get mad he didn't want a kid or was not ready to grow up..we both knew sex could lead to a child condom,pill,pullout etc.. he left while I stayed...I know I wasn't ready to be a mother but my mom was heart broke watching my dad with a new woman and 2kids since my mother couldn't have any more and really wanted Anna I done what I felt was best...when she was two I met the love of my life and he has always treated her with respect..my point just because you got with a guy and he was not what you thought or changed does not mean you have to lower yourself to calling them names..it takes two to tango that don't mean they tango for life a man who is an "asshole" will show his true colors one time or another...how good you see it is another story.