Yeah it's very typical for someone like that to say that. my husband was kind I don't need that shit but you could talk to a stranger. I'm when I said you know what I really could. Why don't we both go separately and then go to couples. then he flipped. like I said he has to be the one who wants to change and finally open up his eyes cause the only person stopping him is himself.

I Deleted All Of My Ex's Too. But He Has A Lot Of Ex's On His. And I've Asked Him Before If He Still Loved Her. I Told Him I Wouldn't Get Mad If He Did. They Were Together For 2 Years And They Split Up Not Long Before We Got Together So I Would Understand. I Just Really Needed To Know. He Always Tells Me No, He Doesn't Love Her Anymore But His Actions Say Different. And He Won't Go To A Therapist. He Says He's Not Gonna' Tell Some Stranger About His Personal Business But Yet He Won't Tell Me Either. It's Just So Frustrating. 😔 @mommabearto2

Well he didn't marry her. he married you and you can tell him that too. it's very inappropriate for him to have an ex on social media. All my ex's were deleted besides my daughters father. who is now who Im married to, again. your husband seems to have unsolved feelings that he has to work through though. he defiantly needs counseling so he can have a healthy way to release his feelings without feeling "judged".

I'm Glad Things Are Looking Up For You. We've Only Been Together A Year And A Half, Married For Almost 5 Months Now. I Just Wish He Would Realize What He's Putting Me Through. On Top Of Everything Going On, He Also Makes Me Feel Like He Still Loves His Ex. We Can Be Talking And He'll Say "Well Mary Used To Think This..." Or We'll Be Going Somewhere And He'll Say "Me And Mary Used To Come Here A Lot. She Loved This Place." He Used To Scroll Through His Facebook And He Was Still Friends With Her On There And Every Time He Would See Where She Posted A Picture, He Would Stare At It For A Couple Of Minutes And When I Looked To See What He Was Staring At, He Would Say "She's A Whore." And Keep Scrolling. And Then She Showed Up At His Aunt's Funeral Sunday Even Though She Had Never Met Her. I Asked Him When We Got Home If He Saw Her And He Said He Didn't Notice She Was There Until We Were Heading Back To The Car To Go Home But Yet I Saw Him Staring At Her During The Burial, I Just Didn't Point Out To Him That I Noticed. I've Been Really Self Conscious Here Lately And It's Because Of Everything He's Been Doing. @mommabearto2

Oh I know how you feel. Honestly My husband and I started dating 10 years ago. We got married when I was 17 because I got pregnant and kicked out of my parents house and his parents said we had to get married. 2 1/2 years of marriage I left him for these reasons. 3 1/2 years of being divorced and a year ago we got back together. His and my relationship has been full of ups and downs and me moving in with his parents several times cause he was verbally abusive. it got to the point his own parents were telling me to leave him. His sister was our neighbor and could hear all of our fights and was saying leave him. Because I didnt have my own family I felt so stuck until I stood up for me and my daughter. Yet here I am. Married to the same guy. yes we married twice and I'm partially in the same boat as I was before but now we have answers for his behavior. Its honestly nothing you've done to make him this way and no matter how hard it is to force that out of your head you have to. You can literally treat this man like a freaking king but until he wakes up and realizes that the only one to blame for how he feels is himself. Hes not going to change the way he treats you. Abusers always think of themselves as the victims. They will always try to make the other person feel like dirt because misery LOVES company. Plus they always have to be right. Its the winning tactic. I used to think my husband was kind Stupid (hate to say it) because he would talk in circles or yell at me that I couldn't give him a straight answer even though I was for an hour straight. It wouldnt be until I gave up fighting with him that I would notice he'd say his last hurtful remark but then leave me alone. Its because in his mind "he won" the fight. This gave him power. This also made me feel like I was doing something wrong. I would do everything he would tell me to but it never was enough which is another way of "winning" is control. Now my husband is in counseling for it and anxiety medication. His doctor also told him that he has hypertension because of the stress he puts on himself. I thought I needed therapy and medication for depression and the doctor had to convince me that it was the other way around. it wasn't me that needed it but him. When someone's been treated poorly for a long time you just begin to think you're the problem and it takes a village to wake you up and say no its not. Thats why I say with everything him and I have gone through this past month has been the biggest eye opening month of our lives because he noticed that he had to change, he started to see that he wasn't the victim, he woke up because he realized if he didnt he would lose his family cause of his abuse and because of his heart die because he wasn't taking care of himself. You can be perfect but until he decides he needs to change he will make you think else wise.

I've Asked Him What Happened That Made Him Not As Happy With Me But He Never Says Anything Back. He Just Walks Off. @firsttimemommy13 I've Tried Explaining To Him That What He Says And Does Hurts My Feelings When All I've Tried To Do Is Love Him And Take Care Of Him And My Family But He Says He Hasn't Done Or Said Anything Wrong To Me. I Can't Go Stay Somewhere Because We Live With My Grandmother And She Would Kick Him Out If I Left Because Of Him And He Doesn't Have Anywhere To Go. And My Whole Family Has Seen How He Treats Me And Pointed It Out To Him. Hell, His Own Brother Pointed It Out To Him But He Still Hasn't Changed At All. @mommabearto2

Oh yeah sweetheart I just recently dealt with this not even a month ago. My husband and I got into a huge fight just like that one night after he came home drunk at 6 am. Obviously I was livid and he just went off on me. After 3 days of not speaking and I already had a place to stay for a week I finally told him the way he was acting. He really didnt like receiving a link to an verbally abuse website but it showed that everything that I was feeling and he was saying was actually verbal abuse. He was upset the first day but after that I think it made him wake up and realize he needed to grow up. Not me. Then he got a doctors appointment and the doctor basically told him that his anxiety was off the charts and could be the reason why he feels the need to blame everyone for his problems. BOOM wake up call. Now hes changing because it was no longer me saying something is wrong. It was a doctor too.

have you tried to ask him what is going through his head

That's What I've Been Trying To Do But It's Just Hard. I Can't Open Up To Him About Anything Because He Just Gets Mad. And Then When I Get Upset And Start Crying, He Gets Even More Mad. He Knows Pregnancy Messes With My Hormones But He Gets Mad At Me For Not Controlling It. It's Gotten To The Point I Get So Depressed, I Actually Started Looking Into Going To A Therapist But The Closest One To Me That My Insurance Will Pay For Is An Hour Away. And I Don't Have My License And He Said He Won't Take Me To A Therapist When I Just Need To Grow Up. @mommabearto2

I think all men and women get in a rut sometimes. Sadly, Nothing we can do can change it. They just need to get themselves out of that rut to actually look around and start appreciating the woman he has who has been taking care of him, his daughter and his unborn son. Hang in there. My husband and I always seem to be getting in and out of ruts but my husband finally made the step to bettering himself to control his sleep apnea and his anxiety that we've been battling for 10 years. I'm already seeing a difference. So just bare with it. Some days just seem darker then ever and whenever you feel alone just talk to one of us ladies on preggies.

It Wouldn't Make A Difference To Him. We Rarely Have Sex Anymore Because He Always Says Either He Doesn't Feel Good Or He's Too Tired. @firsttimemommy13

what I been doing with mine is not having sex with him till he starts treating me right

I've Tried Talking To Him And Telling Him How I Feel But It Always Just Starts An Argument. I'll Let You Know If I Ever Do Change Him Back. Thank You. @mommabearto2 And Thanks. You Too. @firsttimemommy13

thanks and if you ever need to vent you can message me

When you figure out how to change him back let me know. Fingers crossed for you.

Thanks Girl. I'll Pray For You And Yours Too. @firsttimemommy13

I'm having similar issues. I'll be praying for you and your family