Seeing everyone plan their baby showers makes me kinda sad....My God sister told my husband that she…
Seeing everyone plan their baby showers makes me kinda sad....My God sister told my husband that she was going to plan on for me and that she would do it all. He messaged her the other day and now she is backing out saying she cant afford it and doesn't even know how to plan one anyways...but went out that say day with her husband to eat and did all this other shit and spent a lot of money.
We don't have the money to through one and I know that if I end up having one here at our place my family in Fresno won't come because of the drive.....but also know that if I have it in Fresno at a restraunt then the few friends I have here won't go because no cars. I have no close family here and no real friends that would even come....They all love in either Indiana or Texas.
I feel so alone with all this because it also means we have to but everything for our son our selves and money is already so tight.
I have really bad anxiety so thinking about this is only making it worse and because I do I cant help but to think about it.
sorry so long just feeling kinda down.
Sariena·
Мама сына-младенца
I'm throwing my OWN Gender Reveal and my OWN baby shower bought decorations from the 99 cent store and $5 pizzas with a homemade salad aha screw everybody i dont even care whos showing up I just want the experience
rosita warn·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (27 нед.)
@hernandezmommy, I would do that but like I said we don't have money for it or I would have done it myself. I have sever anxiety and depression so even if I did then I would be setting myself up for disappointment and that's not what I want....I wanted a party so I could have some fun and enjoy the last moments of my pregnancy with my family and friends...but as I stated I don't have very many here. I'm fact the family that is here don't even talk to me and only live an hour away...my friends are more of just neibores that I will occasionally hang out with.
Sariena·
Мама сына-младенца
@aydensmommy2016, and I totally get that but don't make excuses and I mean that in a supportive way not in a mean way but this is YOUR PREGNANCY don't let anyone or anything ruin it . you don't wanna be a mom who regrets later when that baby book asks for pictures of the shower. I suffer from severe anxiety not just in my pregnancy but Im on medication and while I'm pregnant I refuse to take anything so my anxiety is times 10 when I'm pregnant plus the hormones ugh so I know how it feels but I don't have family just my mom. I don't have ANY friends ahaha so sad not even one because I use to be a wild girl soo my friends aren't healthy for my new family so I've completely cut myself off from them but u know what my baby shower I had with my first born about 5 people were their 6 including myself, and you know what? looking back I smile(:
just its the hardest thing to do right now but smile ! :D
you know what really drove me? when my doctor told me everything I feel my baby feels! you're a beautiful mama and soon your baby will be in your arms and nothing else will matter not how much family is around or how many friends u have :) I hope u start to feel better
rosita warn·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (27 нед.)
@hernandezmommy, I understand what you saying and mostly I am happy but I don't even have my mom here with me...Its just my husband and our three year old deaf daughter....My "family" that is here is my gmas sister and her kids...none of them speak to me and my so-called friends that I have here arnt good for me either and arnt even really my friends. Its hard to stay positive when I have my anxiety and depression as well as being a stay at home mom to a special needs deaf child....we never leave the house because my husband works so much to support us. We have seen him a total of three hours these past two weeks because of how much he is working just so we can make sure we have enough money to but our son a car seat.
Sariena·
Мама сына-младенца
you should look for support in your area. look for free mommies groups and even more specifically ones who have moms who also have a child with extra needs. my fiance is our only financial support at the moment right now as well because I'm high risk and can't work so I get the feeling of being alone .. he works nights so he literally doesn't even eat with us just sleeps when hes home and sometimes it hurts my feelings but nothing is permanent everything will soon pass. have you looked for resources in your area? @aydensmommy2016
rosita warn·
Мама дочки (2 года), беременна (27 нед.)
@hernandezmommy, I have but can't go to any of them because we only have one car and most of them meet up right around my daughters nap time. My husband has been working 12's for the last two weeks because he is getting switched to 1st shift so I don't have the car unless I wake up at 5-6 am to take him to work then pick him up at either 3-7 which is right in the middle of my daughters nap time. She is very hard to deal with when she's cranky and makes my anxiety go up to very harmful stress levels for our baby.
My daughters name is Charlotte. She was born with hip dysplasia, it was not formed right...she has had a few surgeries on it already but will need more. She also has a club foot and leg discrepancy all on the same side(right), because of these she can not walk by her self and does not crawl she scoots on her butt. She is deaf, does not speak at all..only a few signes to tells us more, drink, plz, sleepy, and hungry. She has scattered abnormalities in her brain as well as leassions in her white matter, which means she is slow and behind by at the least 3-5 months. She will be three March 5....I'm due May 14 with my son.