@jaycemommy, your right in gonna try my best to make things better before my son arrives but if I try too hard he's gonna bring up old shit like I thought you ain't want me around ect I don't want to hear all that at all

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I feel you trust me. alls I'm saying is just try to do as much as you can for the sake of your sons potential relationship with him. my BD was so mean in the beginning it was only like a week but it felt like forever cause we were so good then out of nowhere one week he was swearing it wasn't his then asking for a test and I was so hurt cause we've been rocking with only each other for so long but come to find out it was his brother and mother planting shit in his ear he came back apologized and still apologies to this day for how bad he treated me during that time. maybe he has someone else influencing him or maybe its just not "real" to him until he sees that proof....who knows. your not wrong for wanting to keep the negative enee out you and your son life but hey you never know if he'll step up til u try.

@jaycemommy, I fully understand where your coming from I'm willing to do a dna test ect but that's not gonna make him want to be a father . I can do everything in my own power but nothin seems to make him happy . I'm doin my best to just take it day by day until I have my son & just see if he will just step up & be apart of my sons life I already told him I'm moving he don't care Cus he's gonna do him at the end of the day

As a adult who grow up without a father until I was 10 due to my mother not wanting to give him a DNA test and moving from FL to PA it was tough. We as women are strong and I'm sure your capable of raising your child wonderfully on your own so that's not the point but when I was a child I had so many questions about my dad throughout the years then when my mom finally had the talk with me at 10 about what happened I was furious, I felt like damn why didn't you just give him the test so he could be in MY life. I know you feel hurt, offended, and alone by the way he's acting however he is still the father of your child and for the sake of tour child why not go ahead, get a prenatal dna done and see if that will cause him to step up. if not then guess what? at least you cab say you did that much and you tried on your part. then if you feel like u have to wipe your hands of it then do so. at the end of the day you can't raise a man but for the sake of the child please don't block the joy of developing their own relationship with their father just because things went south behind y'all.

Thanks so much I appreciate it I just knew I wasn't wrong for what I'm doin period . It's just me & my son ☺️👣💙💪🏈@rylannandashersmommy22

@marissamiller, then you and your baby are most definitely best without him ..... he's no man in my eyes and doesn't deserve to be apart of you or your sons life. You continue to succeed mama , your son will know who his hero is and who was always there.

@igotababy2, & that's exactly what I'm doin I'm working until I drop my son I'm not depending on anybody it would be nice to have my sons father be supportive & help me ect but me & my son gonna be straight without him 😊

@j.echo, Awh thank you 😁☺️

@rylannandashersmommy22, thanks I fully understand & ive tried I can't make him do anything he doesn't even work or anything I've been working & saving since day one of me finding out . I've bought clothes,diapers,swing,stroller & car seat & many more things to come I'm busting my add these next 17 weeks to provide for my son until I go on maternity leave

I feel like you are not in the wrong. If child's father don't want to his part in the child's life then you need to do what you need to do. You can't beg or ask a boy to do his part. Been there and done that . So you do what you need to do for your kids

Amen! If you ever need to talk, I'm here. We single mommas have to stick together!

You're not in the wrong by any means ..... just because some immature girls that think if the father isn't with them then they aren't going to see their child at all doesn't mean THATS WHAT WE ALL ARE DOING when we cut the father out of the picture ! Some guys are just shitty and don't want to have the responsibility of being a father or they either want to half ass do it , and I personally think that if a man wants to do either of those then he doesn't need to be around ! You can't make somebody be or do anything so why sit around begging or trying because that only makes you upset in the end. And for the men who don't work or have much money that isn't even an excuse to not be there for your child some things don't take money like caring , asking about , spending time with basically just being there for your child emotionally and physically until you can help financially THERE IS NEVER GOOD EXCUSE IN MY EYES to not be there for your children . Me and my unborn sons father are split up but we still get along , he still helps me out with not only things our son needs but my needs also . We have are moments but that when we have to remind one another that we have to get along and have respect for one another for our son because he deserves both of his parents ! And we want our son to see us loving one another instead of bashing each other .... we didn't get along right now as boyfriend/girlfriend but we want to get along as parents and have one anothers back. I just wish every man could see the importance of not giving up on his child /children and trying to keep a good relationship with the mama because she's just as important..... sorry for the long rant lol but again you are not wrong at all.

@j.echo, I fully understand & what's best for me is moving back to Ohio I have all my family there & everybody is very supportive of my choice . & yes I choose to keep my son weather I had to do it alone or as a family either way I knew my son was gonna be straight 👌 I don't refuse keeping him just things are a little harder since I'm the only parent but I'll get threw it 😊

I moved from Cali to North Dakota to be closer to my family last month. No regrets. If you aren't gonna be supportive, I'll be damned if I'm sticking around. I know my family has me 110% on this. I moved when I was about 21 weeks, and he only went to ultrasounds, and he almost missed the 20 week one. The only reason he went was for pictures for his mom. SMH. He doesn't know I have a 3d one this week because he hasn't checked in, and I'm not volunteering info out to him at this point.

@zelda133, that's gonna be just like my sons father 😏 @mommy.to.be.041016 thanks love 😊

Thanks ladies it makes me feel a hundred times better ☺️@shemeher68 @j.echo I've been doin it alone since I found out at 5 weeks . He's never asked to come to an appointment .. How's his doin ect he's always so quick to say I want a dna okay that's close can do that just don't be mad when I move after he's born back to Ohio because I'm doin what's best for me & my son .. He will ask me if I'm talkin or fuckin with anybody last time I checked that's none of your business 💯 he's saw me once & I'll be 23 weeks tomorrow . He saw me at 11 weeks & that's the last untroubled he has & will ever have its a sad situation I've never thought I'd be doing this alone but what kills me only makes me stronger 💪💪

my child's dad has never came around. and he's 9 months. he's a crappy dad.

you're not don't listen to people like that I'm just Now learning to let go of the ones that means the most to me due to my son cause I don't want that negativity in my life either you hit the nail right on the head way to go girl !!! set em straight that's why I always say "know their story and what they been through before throwing your two cents in their lives that has nothing to do with you" lord only knows how I feel about people like that ! @marissamiller

your not wrong love ❤ @marissamiller I feel the same way

Mine hasn't checked in for over a month, even knowing I'm high risk. He says he'll send things over for the nursery, but we'll see. He's in for a rude awakening if he thinks my girl is going to get his last name.