I Know This Is A Bit TMI. But I Really Need Another Women's Advice I Don't Know What To Do. So I've Been Having Super Low Self Esteem, Ever Since My Daughters Started Dropping And I've Been Getting These HORRIBLE Stretch Marks On My Stomach. Well I've Told My Spouse That I've Been Feeling Super Low And He's Tried To Make Me Feel Better. But Tonight My Self Esteem Has Hit A New Low. I Found Porn Videos On His Phone. I Don't Know What To Say To Him. I Can't Stop Crying. I Feel Terrible. I Feel Like I Can't Even Please My Own Man Anymore.. I Just Don't Know If Its Because I'm Pregnant And My Hormones Are Crazy Or If I'd Feel Like This Either Way. How Would Yall Feel.? What Do I Say To Him.? Am I Just Over Upset About This.? Help.. ?
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sweetheart, i watch porn, its not because my SO cant sastify me sexually (he does) its because i enjoy/like going solo sometimes. if i found porn on my mans phone it wouldnt bother me. the only way/reason it would/could bother me if he was watching gay men porn. sometimes men just like going solo. and some women enjoy going solo and would like some entertainment while doing so. :) hope this helps :)
Possibly he did it for the simple fact that at your stage of pregnancy he is aware of how uncomfortable you are physically and doesn't want to pressure you into anything intimate. The only way you'll know is by talking to him rather than jumping to conclusions in your head. Besides, why were you going through his phone in the first place? JC.
At least it's not pictures of women who text him this isn't the worst thing that could happen
I can agree on that, that they don't think. But thankfully they aren't all like ttlokitabella91 hat@
@jessicahartze, men are men because they tend to do things without thinking sometimes you have to remind them every once in a while of how u feel if they're that bull headed. its different comfortabilities. men will be men period that's why they piss us off most times. but it doesn't mean you cant talk to them.I didn't say it was OK @jessicahartze
Porn is something completely fine, and shouldn't be something to really worry about. My boyfriend and I watch it together and it actually makes us closer
I don't agree with "men are men" no, men don't need to watch porn, its just something society tells us to make it okay. porn ruins a lot of relationships, for more than just insecurities. @tlokitabella91
I'm sorry you had to deal with that, you should make it clear to him how you feel about it and tell him to stop, its not good for you to stress like that. I know because I do all the time and it hurts baby, and baby knows. Just talk to him. I know that's hard too.
I have had the same issue with my man watching porn as well and have felt the same way. I have asked him why he watches it and he said, "I watch it to learn new moves and positions, it's not that you don't turn me on by no means, I just don't want the sex to get boring by doing the same positions all the time." When he said that, it did make sense bc when you do the same positions all the time , sex can get boring. So since that discussion, there have been times that I have watched it with him and if I see a position I want to try, I tell him and we try it and it actually put some spice in our relationship. Try talking to him and maybe even watch it with him sometimes.
being pregnant I could see it bothering u because we get in our feelings and don't feel beautiful some days.BUT men are men. doesn't mean he doesn't love u or u don't please him it's just natural. but u can still tell him how u feel. and ask him whatever is on your mind.it'll make u feel better
Just tell him how you feel. Say your self esteem has already dropped as it is and seeing what he has on his phone isn't helping.
Me when I saw my bf watching it when I was pregnant I literally kicked him and told him to get tf off of it or id break his phone. I was crazy when I was pregnant lol
hell me and him watch porn together