I am pregnant with baby 4 and I told my husband that since this baby was a surprise with him having a vasectomy and all that I wanted to let the gender be a surprise. He got so pissed saying it was pointless. I asked if we could let the gender be a surprise until the gender reveal that way baby is still celebrated because I don't want a baby shower and gifts. His response, "If that is what will make you happy, still seem pointless to me." This man will do anything for me but his attitude bothers me sometimes. ( a lot of the time now that I'm pregnant). Neither of us planned this I feel alone cause I haven't told anyone yet. This baby is a blessing and regardless of how she or he came to be I carry the same excitement as I would he the pregnancy was planned.