ladies, please help me. I live with my boyfriend and his parents and sister because my pregnancy was an unplanned…

Well I can't say that for sure but it's definitely horrible. I was raised to stick up for myself and other people if I felt like what someone was doing was wrong and his grandma would always make racial slurs, take money out of my boyfriends wallet, ask me for money, tell me that if we moved 45 minutes away we were stupid and she wouldn't come babysit (even though neither of us want her to😂). She's nice when she wants something, other then that she's Satan in disguise. I swear on everything she doesn't like me but my boyfriend said she does and blah blah blah. I'm like you do realize how much I've opened your eyes to how she really is already in the last 2 and half years, I'm pretty sure I'm spot on with that judgement call. His mom gets mad at her too because of the stuff she says to me because the more disrespectful she is to me the less likely I'll be to take the baby there. I've already told him I'm not bringing our son to his mom and grandma's without him because they make me feel uncomfortable. Everything relationship wise changes alot when a baby gets involved.

@scc2413, that sounds even worse than our situation!!! I'm glad you got out of there!!

@perhsice, she really is a handful!! I really appreciate the good things she has done for us, but the price I am paying with my sanity is unbelievable lol

@gabbyflynn6, thank you, I really hope I'll be able to put her in check nicely once the baby is actually here and she will transition into being a grandmother and not a mother.

this woman is so crazy, she offered to throw her own baby shower, separate from the one my own mother is throwing, because we are from two different states and she thought it would be easier. she is inviting over 50 people to her shower, most of them my boyfriend and I don't even know. she wanted to send nice invitations to her friends and family and give dollar store invitations to our close friends because they "don't need" anything fancy. well now apparently she wants my boyfriend to help her pay for everything. mind you, she found a free hall. she doesn't have to pay a dime to rent it. so I picked my invitations and ordered them, my boyfriend paid for them, and my mom is printing them, getting them copied, purchased the envelopes, and is printing the return address on all the envelopes. now I am responsible for figuring out what to do for the guest favors and making all of them and my boyfriend has to pay for them. and I'm assuming I'll have to pick all of the decorations and he will have to pay for them 😡😡😡 and this is just the issues we are having with the shower, not to mention the side comments about complaining about being sore and all the money issues... I'm gonna lose my mind!!!

I just recently moved out of my boyfriends mom's house mainly because of his grandma. She was the same way, if she helped you with something she'd expect you to give her like $20 for no reason. She's even went through the piggie bank we saved for the baby. Some great grandma right?! His mom and I are okay but she's just so unbelievably lazy and an extremely messy person and it literally drove me crazy. His grandma would say things to me that were very rude, I'd tell my boyfriend, he'd get mad then she'd change the story around and say I was the one saying certain things. It was causing him and I to argue alot, we almost broke up over it because it got so bad and it was all because of his grandma. I ended up leaving and going back home but within the next 2 weeks we're moving into my dad's for a few months until we find a place we both like and can afford. One thing you can't do is let her have a say in anything you do with your baby. It'll be hard but it's not her kid. That was half the battle with his grandma is that she thought since we lived there she had a say in everything from the doctor we chose to nitpicking at our registry and saying we shouldn't get a specific pack n play because SHE thought another one was cuter.

grandparents have rights? 😂😂😂 she sounds like a handful and miserable smh wth

@perhsice, I definitely will make it known once the baby is here, I keep warning my boyfriend that it's going to get ugly if I have to put her in her place. not that I would completely cut her off from her granddaughter, but she actually told me that if I keep the baby from her she already did her research on the state of delaware grandparent laws and she knows her rights to the baby. like who the hell says that to someone?! I could understand if I was unpleasant to her, but I'm always biting my tongue when she pisses me off and trying not to let anything get to me.

I had the same problem. Trust me, once the little one is here, your momma bear instincts will come out & you'll be able to stand up to her (not in means ways either). She'll learn to be a grandmother.

Cant no one stop you from being a mother to YOUR CHILD unless you let them! she needs to back off and you need to let that be known id go in a shelter before anyone tries to control me smh its not good for you mentally and physically

@juliannap,

my parents live in a different state and unfortunately they don't have the room 😢

That's exactly what happened with my mother in law and I. I moved out of there asap and we both came to my mother's house until we can live completely on our own. Why don't you two go to your parents house?