Help! I need advice: TMI-Me and the father of my baby separated, he kicked me out of his house and now that I'm staying with my parents we had somewhat of an agreement on how we will work things out on who is having the baby and what days. Just recently he called asking if I could've give him time with our baby so he could've token him with his grandmothers party. I had told him I wanted him to bring him back to me because my boobs are full and so on. He didn't want to he kept saying that he didn't get the baby to stay a night with him and he made that an argument. I showed up to his house asking him to give me the baby because I told him to drop him off when he came back from his grandmothers and I needed to breast feed. That I wasn't going to throw away the milk. So he refused to give me the baby and called the police on my mother and me. So I had to leave with out my baby because the police said I couldn't do much about it if there isn't any paper work of custody or so. He says he will turn in the papers works on Monday. So I need some guidance from any one who has somewhat the same experience. Or went through it or is. I seriously did not want things to come to this.. It kills me up inside how things ended up between me an him and how we're making our son go through a tough situation when he's 5months. I need to know what can I do or to expect.
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@jlove, there hasn't been any custody agreement or files put in the system. This problem recently happened. My baby's father said he was going to put the papers into the system. He tells me that because there isn't no papers turned in yet I can't do much to get him back. Things are going down hill
@andiryan93, and if she continues to not have a custody agreement than she will continue to just wonder if he is actually feeding the baby when she is not in the picture. I wish her the very best because I couldn't imagine not walking away with my baby when i asked for her.. but ultimately her situation is built on trust right now.. can she trust that he will do the right thing.. the longer that there is no agreement set in stone the longer she is opening herself up to more potential issuss down the road. no one is perfect but when two parents are seperated and both understand the childs needs and work together to implement the best for that child than both parents have reached an agreement and you can bet that trust was the following factor.. I'm just giving advice because if I were in that situation and asked for help.. I would truly want the full breakdown from someone elses eyes..
when you have a child and the father is involved.. example father signed declaration of paternity.. the baby has his fathers name.. you are showing the courts that this man is indeed the father, my suggestion is go file papers at your local child support office first.. because obviously if he is acting as if he is s great father than he should be committing to all factors of it.. emotionally financially and spiritually.. document everything that just happened be clear and concise leave out anything that will make you seem hostile.. then look up family law in your state.. to get an idea of what is legal you can file papers for custody and can be eligible for fee waivers based on income.. you can even have a sheriff serve papers to the other parent and get a fee waiver for that as well in some states. you ultimately should understand just how serious this situation is.. if a man will deny his child a main food source to spite the mother clearly he is not having the childs best interest. secondly you need to stand up for yourself and your child unless you would love to play this game for years to come.. ive seen many women do it.. if you want to call the shots and be the head woman in charge you need to take these steps as soon as possible.. yes a situation like this can be considered kidnapping however there are things to consider.. is there a custody agreement.. has the child been around the father its whole life.. unfortunately sometimes things happen this way to open up our eyes for a change and trust me I have eliminated the possibility of this ever happening to me throught the court system.. gather all information regarding what kind of person he is.. social media is very helpful in this.. you need to show the courts that he is not to be trusted.. that he has a history of non compliance with parenting.. in life we cant just say people are full of shit.. in the court system you have prove that they are.. feel free to private message me on this matter if you feel comfortable I have full custody of my daughter and have been through the process in california ♡ much love hun be strong
This sounds like something I might go through soon, I'm not getting. Along with my child's father and we live together. But I'm at my breaking point and may kick him out soon if he doesn't change. I'm just worried about custody issues bc I don't have family where we live and he does
@leiibaaaby, I breast feed him and give him formula but I told them i was not going to pump and throw away the milk. Simply because when he was a new born I would pump and freeze the milk for when I had to go to school they could give him the milk. My baby's mother would make it seem like it was complicated to heat up the milk and not hear the baby cry. They wouldn't give him the milk so the baby wasn't really use too it.
@andiryan93, my sister in law told me the same thing about how it's considered kidnapping.
usually the courts let the mother have full physical custody due to breastfeeding and the police officer was in the wrong considering you ARE the babies food source. so if I were you I wouldnt have left without your baby. that can be considered kidnapping especially if he won't let you see your child.
Im sorry your dealing with that i dont know anything about custody but i just wanna know how is your baby eating since you werent able to breastfeed ? Did you pump or is he giving the baby formula ? Also the courts are really understanding when it comes to separating breast feed babies from their mothers most states support it and work with that. Hope everything works out.
I'm so sorry your going through this ,I would show up or even wait around till I see him leave the house and take the baby,other then that you have to wait for court and that could take months if he's not on the birth certificate he has no rights to that child
file for full or sole custody I would. well I'm at the moment if their isn't any custody established the cops won't do anything. and girl I would do something that's your baby don't let him take that away from you!