so this is my first baby with my bf. he has 3 from a previous relationship. i struggle with my trust…

If he's never given you a reason to not trust him, then trust him 😊 I know its hard. I had a hard time trusting my man in the beginning even though I had no reason and it put such a strain on our relationship. If you just train yourself to trust him, you can do just that. With the whole situation with his ex, he most likely has to talk to her on a daily basis. She has the power to take those kids away from him and that would be heartbreaking. He would probably be honest with you too if she was flirting. If he has given you permission to go through his phone, then you have nothing to worry about lol because at any given minute, you can turn to him and tell him to hand it over and he knows that. So why would he be stupid enough to let some hoe come in between you guys? PLUS, you're gorgeous! I looked at your profile picture and you have NO competition whatsoever lol so keep your head held high.

It's hard yes but remember he there for his other kids and not her. His baby mama is jealous because you took what she wanted and now she knows she can't get him back doesn't mean she won't try. Your bf seems like he wants nothing to do with her at all. He doesn't answer when she calls but text her what she want and so that should let you know he doesn't have the feelings he had for her the first time. You need to learn to trust him slowly but communicate with him so that he will understand that you're not trying to start anything but letting him know your feelings. Don't stress him and don't stress yourself out over one person who wants to ruin your relationship @jaydensmommy808

my bf has other kids to with different baby mamas lol but HE WILL NEVER get back with them and thats good.to know. i always think he willbut.nope he hate them all he just takes care of his kids! so dont worry or stress to much !

obviously her advances are one sided and it sounds like your boyfriend isn't taking her advances if he's answering the phone like that. you have a good man! give him the benefit of the doubt until he starts whispering on the phone behind your back lol

@milasmomma, thats all true . i tell myself that all the time that he doesnt give me any reason too but then i create all these things in my head. but your right i need to teach myself to trust him . its just my own mind i let control me

@deafmama16, i know he doesnt give me any reason too but im always that what if person and ive seen so many people get hurt even if the guy seems like a "good" guy i guess i feel like hes so amazing that its too good to be true . but i need to change thay

@santinosmommy2be, i need your confidence lol !

@sashasnoww, okay u made me laugh on the last part lol. but your right i need to look at the positives rather then the negatives

@deafmama16, @milasmomma @santinosmommy2be @sashasnoww you just cant trust these hoes now a days !

Here what would help as it helped me and my husband. Turn your phone off and have a couple time doing something together once in a while to take your mind off of things that's stressful. Love each other and bond more. It build trust and also spice up the love 😊 do something new together @jaydensmommy808

@jaydensmommy808, you're right but you're better them because you see yourself much more than whoring around. Listen your man pick you so you hold onto him and be his backbone no matter if these hoes flirt with him or try to get with him as long he knows and respect you that you're the one he wants they all really don't matter at all. That's love.

@deafmama16, thats the hard part. our phones dont leave our hands. i mean when i go to dinner or lunch with him i dont touch my phone unless someones calls or texts (thats rare though my phone is so dry) lol but him he always on his phone . he puts it down then a second later he picks it up to watch netflix or play games . its never just a me n him time. he knows it bothers me but he doesnt put that phone down at all. i feel like im boring or like we havent had sex in a while and im starting to feel like hes not attracted to me no more.

@jaydensmommy808, surprise him. If you want him so bad to keep the relationship alive he want to be surprised so surprise him somehow like getting all sexy with some music and food. Idk why but men's love to be surprised by their woman :)

I had to deal with this as well it sucks but, you have to trust him... and tell him that when he talks to her it's should be about the kids and kids only nothing else...

@deafmama16, lol thats true but sometimes i would like to have my fantasy lol

@tanyarojas, yea he knows that . which is where i go wrong for not trusting him. its just what ive been througb and seen . but i need to not put that in this relationship because hes amazi g

@jaydensmommy808, have your fantasy then :) don't let nothing stop you shoot I have mine once in a while but have to take it another direction since I'm on break from my corset 😣 as long hubby happy I'm happy ☺️