I'm getting extremely upset at this point. I feel like every decision my fiance and I make when it…

I'm getting extremely upset at this point. I feel like every decision my fiance and I make when it comes to OUR daughter, my mother doesn't seem to be happy with it. even just the smallest things, like her middle name. to the big things like not giving OUR daughter her own room until she's at least a couple years. she also got extremely upset when I told her I'm switching doctors and hospitals completely. she went on to say that I don't want my step dad seeing his granddaughter, because I guess the hospital I switched to has a rule that registered offenders aren't aloud in the maternity ward like it's my fault or something. like no my step dad's charges are his fault, and my fiance and I aren't gonna change are minds just because my mother doesn't like OUR decisions when it comes to OUR daughter. also, I don't want anyone at the hospital but my fiance and I when we have our daughter, for atleast the first day or so. because it's just gonna be way to much for me to handle. and I have yet to tell my mother that. but I know she's gonna throw a fit and get emotional like a 5 year old throws a tantrum. and my fiance just tells me to ignore it, and I try to, but it just irritates me. 😡😡