once you figure out your best course of action, text him. explain you want to coparent, but that does not mean you want to be friends. the next time he contacts you and it does not directly related to the baby, you will do..... (whatever you need to do) that sets the line. if he crosses it, he put the nail in his own coffin and showed the court you need relief that you can't get on your own

call your locale police department. explain that your ex is harassing you and you don't know how to get relief. they can advise you of your options.

I'm not exactly sure in your state, but I've had to get one in Maryland and Delaware and they both work differently. in Delaware, you go to the court, and file a protection from abuse. you show that he has repeatedly ignored your requests to not contact and it is escalating (when you don't respond, he calls you multiple times). In maryland, it works different. unless he is threatening your life, you have to go to the court and file harassment charges.

@emily18234, i honestly never thought it would get this far. I never thought i'd be doing this with my first pregnancy 😐 but i guess you really never know. How does a no contact order work exactly? Honestly he'd just blame me for it all and think he's done nothing wrong 😒

then you need to tell him "unless it's about the baby, do not contact me". if he continues, get a no contact order. my son's dad is literally the exact same and it's starting to escalate. people like that don't just realize it's over.

@emily18234, honestly, its getting to that point! I just get angry and upset whenever he texts me cuz if i don't answer in like 10 minutes he'll freak out and blow up my phone and if i answer right away but he doesn't like what i say he freaks out and starts yelling. Its like he just can't comprehend that, even though I'm pregnant and its his, we do not have to speak every day. I didn't want to have to ignore him and stuff, i wanted to have a good relationship for our kid but he is just NOT letting that happen right now

the best thing is just consistency. not being nice. not letting one time go by where you're talking like friends about life. just if he texts you immediately reply with "is this about the baby" and if it's not directly related to your child l, ignore it. don't even respond. we're at the point now where literally unless it's about a medical emergency, I will reply with "ok"

my son's father is like that and we were never together LOL. our "catch phrase" for him is "spanks me mad!!" because he will literally talk to you for an hour about everything that makes him mad....and it's not even about our son